The Perfection of a Moment

The Perfection of a Moment

As mentioned in the previous post, I from here starting writing out – daily, the most common self judgments I accepted and allowed to entertain and participate in within my Mind. From here, I started redefining the self judgments into self acceptance. Together with this, I started a process of redefining self perfection more into something real, something tangible that assisted and supported me in my process through making mistakes and learning from them. This I will continue with in posts to come.

When it comes to redefining yourself within words – the key is to find an ‘anchor point’ within your everyday life that serves as the initial platform within and as which you practise the redefined-living of yourself within and as the word. For example, with me: I started changing the living definition of myself when it came to the word ‘perfection’ in the context of making mistakes. Once I became more comfortable and natural in living the word perfection in this one context – I started expanding myself, my world in a way of seeing where else, in what moments in my everyday life can I redefine and live the word perfection.

But, initially – it assists and supports to start with ONE POINT within yourself and your life to get a ‘feel’ for the process involved with redefining yourself in and as a word. Once you get through the anchor point – really visibly change in who you are in thought, word and deed in a proven way for yourself and others: you will find that the next points / dimensions in yourself / your life you’d like to change will be much easier, because you have now developed that trust and knowing within yourself when it comes to how to redefine and live yourself within and as a specific word.

Getting back to my anchor point, starting my process of redefining myself within and as perfection, which started with my experience in moments of making a mistake:

Within the experience and reflection of making a mistake, I would during this process forgive the judgments and change them into acceptance, gifting me the opportunity within myself to be able to take a step back and look at what I need to refine, adjust, specify and re-align within myself. To so be able to look at the mistake, learn from it, grow through it and also become a living example of others to be able to effectively learn through and from me based on my effectiveness of learning from and through the mistake. Then, I would equally start living my redefinition of the word perfection, which was: “To walk the process of writing, forgiveness and change within awareness – with the specificity, detail and depth of self honesty and awareness that is here as me in THAT MOMENT / point in time in my process.”

Essentially, perfection for me became something personal and intimate in my process walking from consciousness to awareness. This definition assisted and supported me in a way of not so easily / readily accepting and allowing judgments or accepting and allowing the fear of not being perfect, because I would remind myself that: I am me. I am here. I will strive to in this moment, this experience – be as specific, detailed and in-depth with myself as I am honestly, within my awareness able to. To assist and support me and so others.

Therefore, perfection was not defined in relation to others or anything external about myself – but rooted within WHO I AM able to be, the POTENTIAL I am able to be in moments and experiences within myself and my life.

In this, perfection then also became my personal challenge, where: I wouldn’t only ‘just be specific, in-depth and detailed’ but PUSH MYSELF to be as specific, in-depth and detailed as possible. Always REMEMBERING and REMINDING myself I am in a CONSTANT, CONTINUOUS journey of LEARNING in this lifetime within myself and my life. To ACCEPT mistakes EQUALLY as I would accept MYSELF! Acceptance when it came to mistakes assisted and supported me to drop this polarity of judgment and perfectionism, as well as the fear and desire inner-conflict I existed in for much of my life.

This again, the beauty of redefining words and so redefining yourself. From perfection being both a fear and desire, catapulting me into the consequences of self judgment: I transformed me and so the word perfection for me in a way that assisted and supported me within my personal process. Where the word and so my living experience of it became a support for me, rather than my own self-destructive demise that I accepted and allowed.

I’ll continue more in posts to come

Dependable: From Unrealistic Perfection to a Perfect Beginner

Dependable: From Unrealistic Perfection to a Perfect Beginner 

For so many others, when you have so much responsibility, such a massive purpose – does dependability mean “you have to be perfect all the time?” Does dependability mean “perfection” OR…does it mean “being a SUPPORTIVE EXAMPLE?” What is the difference between “perfection” and “being a supportive example?” To me, being a supportive example is: when and as you go through processes and experiences, make mistakes – that you LEARN and SHARE and SHOW as a supportive example for others to equally LEARN FROM YOU as YOU LEARNED FROM YOUR MISTAKES. ‘Cause I initially defined ‘dependability’ within ‘my purpose / responsibility’ as “I have to be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT!”. This was a mistake…

With walking the process of redefining and living words, you in time come across such moments where you look back, look into yourself and look at your relationship with a word - realising there are ‘misalignments’. Such as my process and experience with the word ‘dependable’:

I, with full force, lived the word ‘dependable’ – along with my definition of it: being ‘absolutely perfect’ in the sense of NEVER making mistakes, NEVER falling / faltering / wavering inside myself – when it came to my personal process and experiences, especially in the beginning when I started my process in my early twenties.

Whenever I did make mistakes, fall, falter, waver inside myself or within a particular process: I would be ever so hard on myself, come down on myself really hard. I’d eventually work with and through the miss-takes, deal with them, get over them; but then push myself to strive for that perfection EVEN MORE. I realised with looking back that: my process wasn’t so much about learning from my mistakes and sharing it with others in a way of being a dependable example within the process of learning and changing (which is the main foundation / principle of self change: reflecting on mistakes, learning from them and then actually changing) – but I was more judging/being hard on myself, really tough on myself, then trying to fix / change the mistake as best and fast as possible and using that as ‘fuel’ to strive for perfection even more, to do everything and anything possible to NOT make mistakes.

My process became more about striving for perfection than assisting and supporting me and so equally others. Assisting and supporting me and others in a way of: when making a mistake, learning and changing in a way of supporting me to not make the same mistake again and placing in the needed measures, methods and self support as what I learned from the past mistake. All in all living the principle of prevention – learning from mistakes to not unnecessarily re-cycle in and as the same mistakes but source from them as much as possible for me to learn about myself, grow and expand. Then from here, from my process and experience of mistakes, sharing and showing others so that others can equally be assisted and supported with how to deal with / walk through / transcend and process through mistakes in a way where they actually learn, grow, expand and so change in a supportive way for themselves. The above, essentially explaining the redefinition of the word ‘dependable’ I came to live in time as “being a supportive example for me and so for others”.

Getting back to my ‘strive for perfection’: I have truly, because of this, lived the words “you are your own greatest judge” and “your mind is your own worst enemy” with having a look back at how hard I was on myself, the extent to which I judged and ‘punished’ myself through my own thoughts and emotions whenever I perceived and experienced myself to ‘not be absolutely perfect’. Interestingly enough though – within this strive for perfection WITHIN myself it lead to much consequence in my actual living, where: I would resist spending time with people, rather isolate myself in a quiet space within me and my surroundings to not have to expose myself to possibilities or potentials for making mistakes. Also in this outflow consequence – not living the real word ‘dependable’ from the perspective of being a dependable living leading example for others.

There is so much more to be opened up when it comes to what I lived and experienced within and as the word ‘Perfection’ and I will continue with this sharing in blogs to come. To take with you for today: I realised through revisiting my definition and living of the word ‘dependable’, once I walked through the process of not judging / being hard and tough on myself when making mistakes, instead learning from mistakes and practising what I learned into living action to in fact change from within what I have learned: I started sharing, showing more of myself, my process, my mistakes, my ups and downs in a way that assisted and supported so many others. Eventually – over time, solidifying the living of the word dependable as “being a supportive example” rather than ‘absolutely perfect’.

But, it was quite the journey to first and foremost live dependable for me, me showing my dependability to myself in being able to stop judging / being so hard on myself and to take that step into actually learning from mistakes and correcting / changing from what I learned.

This journey I will continue with in the next post…

Becoming Dependable: The Beginning

Becoming Dependable: The Beginning

“What would it mean to enable myself, the living pen as the process of living the word dependable?” “What would it practically mean for me, my relationship with who I am in thought, word and deed to live the word ‘dependable’ and what role does purpose play within this all?”

In this post, I am continuing with the above questions as well as expanding on the following:

To those who love writing / drawing / painting: the best moment is when you have that blank page before you and you have the DECISION to EXPRESS the UTMOST of yourself from the moment you start writing / drawing / painting. This is exactly the same for the MOMENTS we have in everyday life when we have a DECISION before us the moment we recognise the fact that our thoughts and inner experiences are not reflecting our potential: to make the decision to CHANGE, to LIVE in thought word and deed the WORD you’re going to WRITE / LIVE in THAT MOMENT.

Here is my beginning with living the word ‘dependable’ in my first and foremost relationship: my relationship with ME – who I am in thought, word and deed. Together with incorporating the word purpose: how I placed my SELF (through what I have as my ability to look, speak, act and within that DECIDE) – to PURPOSE. I essentially merged the words ‘dependable’ and ‘purpose’ within myself in a way where, living the word ‘dependable’ supported the word ‘purpose’ as much as the word ‘purpose’ supported the word ‘dependable’.

This is what is so exciting and liberating when it comes to the process of redefining and living words: How you change and so CREATE yourself through redefining and living individual words, but also reach a phase where you start having a look at uniting / connecting words; such as the words dependable and purpose in a way that supports you in your relationship with yourself, your mind, your relationships and everyday life experiences!

An example: Redefining the word ‘dependable’ for me was to look into both words, ‘dependable’ and ‘purpose’. With having a look at these two words in the beginning of my process when I started Portalling and my responsibility when it came to Portalling: my definition of ‘purpose’ was my relationship to bringing through the beings, to Portal, to share as much knowledge and information that could be placed into living practise / application to show people the process through the Mind into their Utmost Potential as living Self Awareness. Dependability then within that was my personal process WITHIN myself – being the living / leading example, by being more aware of who I am in thought, word and deed – placing a GUARD infront of my MIND, my MOUTH and my LIVING ACTIONS. A GUARD as ME as the MOMENT I GIFT to myself through self forGIFTness to take a BREATH, take a STEP BACK and assess in MOMENTS “who I am” and whether what is moving / manifesting within me is what I want to speak / live or whether I am going to DIRECT and MOVE myself into and as a different expression.

So, here you can see how my ‘self dependability’ as depending on me to be a living / leading example of the purpose I walk and committed to within and as Portalling and the knowledge and information as process the beings are sharing through me – how these two words compliment and support one another in my life, my self and my responsibility towards me and Portalling.

However…I have through time, within the definitions and living of the words ‘purpose’ and ‘dependable’ found that there were some ‘misalignments’ in my initial self definition of the word ‘dependable’. I was satisfied with how I lived the word ‘purpose’ when it came to my responsibility and commitment (as well as MUCH ENJOYMENT!!!) to Portalling. However…I realised I still personally in this world and the hereafter walked my personal processes and experiences through my own mind, being and body relationship - in such a way where I didn’t always ‘feel’ or ‘see’ myself as ‘dependable’ in my personal process and so as an example for so many others. Until I realised: there was a part of me that defined the word ‘dependable’ in “being dependable FOR EVERYONE, FOR THE PORTAL, FOR PROCESS” and so, whenever I made a mistake, or went through a process – I would be VERY hard on myself…and unnecessarily so.

Here again, leading me to asking myself: With having the PURPOSE I do have. The responsibility I have within and as this purpose that is me, that is my life…how can I start redefining and living the word ‘dependable’ for ME first and foremost and from here SHARE and EXPRESS and be a living example of this word for so many others who can, in turn, empower themselves by redefining and living this word?

For so many others, when you have so much responsibility, such a massive purpose – does dependability mean “you have to be perfect all the time?” Does dependability mean “perfection” OR…does it mean “being a SUPPORTIVE EXAMPLE?” What is the difference between “perfection” and “being a supportive example?” To me, being a supportive example is: when and as you go through processes and experiences, make mistakes – that you LEARN and SHARE and SHOW as a supportive example for others to equally LEARN FROM YOU as YOU LEARNED FROM YOUR MISTAKES. ‘Cause I initially defined ‘dependability’ within ‘my purpose / responsibility’ as “I have to be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT!”. This was a mistake…

I will continue more in the next post

Dependable: Enabling my self, my purpose

Dependable: Enabling my self, my purpose

“What would it mean to enable myself, the living pen as the process of living the word dependable?” “What would it practically mean for me, my relationship with who I am in thought, word and deed to live the word ‘dependable’ and what role does purpose play within this all?”

I have looked at my relationship to thinking, speaking and acting. These three foundations serve as a ‘platform’ within and as which I stand, gifting me with the ability to respond to myself, others and my environment. However, what I have not done (in the beginning, before my process started) is analyse, asses or question ‘who I am’ when it comes to thought, word and deed and my response-ability within moments when I am exposed to my own thoughts, own words and own deeds. Whereby, I was a ‘living pen’ - not writing, through living - me, my relationships and my life with awareness. I was not CREATING. I have been a ‘living pen’ with purpose always existent within and as me if only I ENABLED my awareness and my relationship within who I am in thought, word and deed. It’s like, I was just ‘waiting’ to utilise everything I have within me, available within me to bring myself to purpose, to create the utmost potential of who and how I can be and live through my thoughts, words and deeds.

Making this realisation / understanding more practical / tangible: Throughout my process, I transformed my relationship to thoughts in a way of not blindly following them anymore, but first taking a breath and a step back and asking if the nature of my thoughts / experiences emerging within me is the awareness, self and potential I want to live / be / embody in any given moment? From where I would then decide to live a WORD with awareness and embody that word into a living expression of me, that will so transform my words and behaviour and in so doing, transform my relationship with others and my general life experience.

I found that my thoughts / inner experiences defined my words and behaviour and so created my relationships, defined my decisions and choices and filtered out into the experience of my life. Once I started redefining my relationship to who I am in thoughts, words and deeds, I started my process of setting me to PURPOSE, ENABLING thus myself in being able to CREATE ME through changing my relationship with thoughts, words and deeds with awareness.

So, exactly as you would take a pen and start writing / drawing – your hand the directive principle, your self writing / drawing with AWARENESS: you bring your SELF into creation. Same with our thoughts, words and deeds: we, with our SELF AWARENESS need to utilise our thoughts, words and deeds by DIRECTING ourselves within and as them into a CREATION, a STORY worth living.

To those who love writing / drawing / painting: the best moment is when you have that blank page before you and you have the DECISION to EXPRESS the UTMOST of yourself from the moment you start writing / drawing / painting.

This is exactly the same for the MOMENTS we have in everyday life when we have a DECISION before us the moment we recognise the fact that our thoughts and inner experiences are not reflecting our potential: to make the decision to CHANGE, to LIVE in thought word and deed the WORD you’re going to WRITE / LIVE in THAT MOMENT.

I will continue in the next post with more practical examples…

To Stop the Fight – You have to Understand the Fight…

To Stop the Fight – You have to Understand the Fight…

I will in the next post share how I am and have been dealing with / directing this ‘fighting’ that I’ve become aware of within me – sharing the nature and design of it within the mind / consciousness and how to support yourself to release your being from such a state of living and experience. More importantly: why it is pivotal to change this nature within yourself to be able to support others to change as well – so that we stop creating and living in a world defined by ‘fighting to live’ and start creating and living in a world defined by reason and purpose and LIVE, for self and all of existence as well.

I will, through walking Self Forgiveness, share insights and realisations I’ve had regarding this ‘fighting nature’ and the extent of it; but more importantly: how I have become aware of the manifested consequence this ‘fighting experience’ creates in your relationship with yourself and everything / everyone else in your life. Where, we’ve become so used to this ‘constant fighting’ with others, within ourselves and with life itself - that we barely recognise / see it.  Yet, the consequence of it comes through / reveals itself in various ways which you may also be able to relate to as I continue through the Self Forgiveness journey:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, in my life – be so focused on my limited definition of the words ‘fighting’ and ‘to fight’ that I always only focused on working through memories / moments of fighting when it came to arguments with people in my life and/or only focusing on fighting as it exists on a global scale when it comes to wars / violence etc. Not allowing myself to take a breath and take a step back when it comes to my personal responsibility of my relationship with me, my own mind and asking myself: “but wait, where EXACTLY are these moments of fighting with myself, with others in the secret of my Mind and/or in real time moments in reality actually coming from?” Why have I not seen / realised that the moments of fighting in the secrets of my mind and/or in real time moments with others are but an outflow consequence of a nature / a part of me coming through that I am accepting and allowing to come into creation when it manifests as fighting in my mind and so also in my relationships with others in my life?

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that I have always only ever been working with the ‘symptoms’ / ‘outflow consequence’ as ‘manifested consequence’ of a core / source nature / part of me in the depths of my mind and being when it came to only focusing on the ‘moments of fights’ in the secrets of my mind and in real moments with others in my life. That I haven’t seen, realised and understood or became aware of the fact that: the ‘fighting’ in my mind and with others in my life only came into creation because there is a deeper part of me in my mind / being bringing it into creation. Not remembering that, the moment something manifests either in one’s mind or one’s life – it’s originating from a greater / deeper part of one’s nature / presence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to diminish and limit my own awareness of me, my mind by always only focusing on the ‘surface’ / ‘conscious’ experiences when it came up in my thoughts and/or when it was actually already too late by the time when I participate in an argument / fight with another person and only during / afterwards wanting to fix / mend the relationship / experience with another. I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that everything that comes up in my mind and in my life is outflow consequence – it’s already “too late” as it’s something that has already come into creation and manifested.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to “apply the principle of prevention” by taking a breath, taking a step back and asking myself “but what IN me and OF me is bringing these ‘fights’ in my mind and with others in my life into creation?” “Why am I only ever trying to deal with / fix / mend and take responsibility for the fights I accept and allow to play out in my mind / my life only once it’s already happened?”

To take with you in this post: the process I briefly showed above within the Self Forgiveness statements is what assisted and supported me to really see and become aware of the depths and scope of this ‘fighting nature’ within the mind and self. Initially, if you have a look at it: you mostly deal with and sort out ‘fights’ in your mind and with others in your life only during / after it has happened – never realising that such ‘fights’ that already manifested in your mind and your life is but an outflow consequence creation / manifestation…trying to ‘fix’ / ‘mend’ / ‘deal with’ such fighting only during / after is already ‘too late’.

To REALLY understand this nature of fighting within one’s mind and one’s life you have to take a DEEPER look into your mind / consciousness and what within the mind / self is bringing such experiences within self and one’s life into creation.

This I will continue with in the next post – again through Self Forgiveness statements sharing the deeper energy / dimensions of the mind / consciousness involved with bringing such ‘fighting’ within self and with others in one’s life into creation. Also, how to PREVENT the creation / manifestation of such fighting within oneself and one’s mind through the process of redefining and living words…

Getting to know Oneself through Observing Others

Getting to know Oneself through Observing Others

The Evil that is Gossip (Part 3)

  

In the next post we’re going to have a look at how we as individuals can take personal responsibility first and foremost: see where within yourself you accept and allow this programming and participate in the perception, interpretation and assumption programming within yourself when observing other people. This so that you can for yourself see the extent to which you do this to yourself, as well as others in not giving them the opportunity to share who / why / how they are and in so doing – separating you from others in your own Mind with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions more than actually getting to know a person.

The main point that supported me in this process of ensuring I don’t fall into the trap of perception, interpretation and assumption – believing my own frames of reference / worldview more than actually getting to know another person: is self-honesty. Self-honesty from the perspective of assisting and supporting myself to, in the moment I observe another person / people and I identify reactions / movements of energy accompanied with thoughts and backchat: I’d do self-forgiveness within myself first and foremost, then realise that what came up within me was my limited reference / understanding as ideas I’ve formed of another person / people based on the limited amount of knowledge and information I acquired. If I do not have the opportunity to go up to the person / people and ask / get to know them, I simply SEE ME – meaning: realise that I in that moment actually more observed myself than others and when / as I do have the opportunity to go up to a person / people and talk with them / get to know them I then add / expand my already existent knowledge and information.

See, what is interesting here when it comes to observing other people and especially when our thoughts / backchats / projections and reactions activates, is that: in that moment – we are not in fact in a moment of observing another person as it is that we are observing our own MINDS.

I have, within my personal process, learned the most about myself by introspecting what triggers / activates in my own Mind with other people and have changed my relationship with many people by applying this one simple point: before I speak / act in relation to another person – I first check my self-honesty, my thoughts and reactions – walk forgiveness, breathe, make sure I am clear in who and how I am to essentially be able to approach a person in a moment with a ‘blank slate’ within me. Meaning – connecting with a person in a way where I essentially stand before them as “this is who I am” not as “this is who I am together with my thoughts and reactions about you”. Because otherwise, you don’t give yourself nor the other person the opportunity to genuinely ‘meet’ one another, as whatever they do / say you will filter through your already existent perceptions, interpretations and assumptions – always having a wall between you and them, and then LOOKING for things they do and say to confirm / deny your preconceptions. Then, it doesn’t become about getting to know them – the process becomes about you wanting to validate / justify your own frames of reference / worldview about things, because you are standing in the starting point of “I am right in how I SEE and what I SEE” – it’s all about solidifying the knowledge and information in the Mind, completely missing the plot of actually getting to know another person, intimately - really understanding and seeing what is within / behind what they do / say, the reasons for who and how they are. No one honestly has access into this (another person’s Mind, history and entire life) cause you only have access to your own Mind, your own thoughts and reactions and so you cannot in fact look into another person’s mind, history, their entire life to directly and clearly see EVERYTHING that happened to them to shape, mould and create them into the person standing before you in a conversation…

So, this is one of the primary mistakes everyone makes: thinking that you can ‘know’ a person just by looking at them or spending a little time with them – because for some reason, people have come to trust their own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions in the mind more and BELIEVE in that more than actually putting in the time and effort of getting to know a person intimately and having them SHARE who they are and WITH THEM through their words, stories and sharing of themselves and their lives SEE who they are through their eyes, through their words, through who and how they are with you in space and time.

So, with this, what I would suggest for everyone to consider applying and implementing in your own life is realising that – especially when you’re in the beginning stages of your process of understanding the Mind of thoughts, emotions etc. (here I would suggest researching the DIP Lite process that introduces you to the basic mechanics of how Consciousness operates and then DIP Pro that takes you deeper into your Consciousness in understanding how your thoughts and reactions creates behaviour / habits and so your general life experience with relationships, decisions / choices, the future etc. – how you through the Mind are in fact creating who, how and what you are and your life is and how to assist and support yourself to empower yourself to change your life through changing yourself for the better) – is realising that: whenever you are observing / looking at other people, take a moment and REMIND yourself to breathe, to first and foremost INTROSPECT and SEE what thoughts and reactions are coming up inside yourself, FIRST SEE what you can LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF in that moment, learn about your mind based on knowledge and information you accepted and allowed that is in fact limiting you from EXPANDING yourself / your knowledge and information within you as long as you react to perception, interpretation and assumption in your own Mind. Then to forgive the reactions, realise that what came up within you is what you understand NOW of what you observed / saw but it in no way can absolutely define another person cause you don’t have access to them, their minds, their lives nor do you know them in any way whatsoever – so you would be limiting you as well as them by holding onto your own beliefs and not allowing yourself to get to know them, their minds / lives.

So, this is the first step I would suggest assisting and supporting oneself with: see how much you can learn about yourself, your own mind through observing others and when you do have the opportunity to meet other people – do yourself and them a favour, make sure you’re self honest and clear upon meeting them and talking with them – to get to know them and so also get to know you, to expand yourself through getting to know other people – rather than limiting yourself to your own mind’s beliefs and ideas. Because this is the thing that’s at the core of creating gossip – people’s minds coming together validating each other’s beliefs and we need more people who have the courage to stand up and bring through some awareness and commonsense in such situations and sharing the consequence of gossip, making people aware of what gossip is and what we miss in our relationship with other people by believing gossip more than giving another person / people the opportunity to share who they are.

We’ll continue more in the next post…

Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

The Evil that is Gossip (Part 2)

One of the primary things that fuels gossip is the relationship between perception, interpretation and assumption. I have had conversations with many different people and the one thing that’s common when they started talking about others is: they in their Minds perceive another’s behaviour, then interpret it according to their own ideas / opinions of the particular behaviour and from there assume their perception and interpretation is correct because they believe their references in the Mind more than actually walking the space and time process of getting to know a person.

So, if you take a step back within yourself and access some memories (or simply observe your mind when you’re around other people) – within this having a look at the processes unfolding within your thinking / internal conversations when watching others: you’ll see how you’ll watch someone talk / move / do something, then slightly or overtly react to them, then in your mind’s eye ‘see’ a projection/imagination that encapsulates the overall ‘image’ of the person and then you’ll start creating an experience towards them based on your emotional / feeling reaction. From here, depending on the reaction being positive or negative and depending on what data/information/memories/programming you have already within your Mind – thoughts, backchats etc. will start activating. Here, your Mind is starting to create a relationship with the person based on emotion, based on feelings, based on data/information/memories/programming of your Consciousness.

For most part we have observed that people will approach / respond / simply stay away from people based on this platform in the Mind which constantly decides on the relationship with another based on perception, interpretation and assumption. Where individuals aren’t even aware of how little they ASK questions to another person, but in fact reference this perception-interpretation-assumption equation in the Mind where either positive and/or negative things will accumulate and as time passes – if the result is more positive, the person will continue a relationship, if more negative, the person will slowly but surely distance themselves.

So, it’s to for yourself see how this particular programming of your Consciousness operates. Referencing / believing this initial ‘assessment’ of a person in your Mind more than actually asking them questions, having conversations, spending time together and getting to know them – is causing a separation within humanity where you have so many people in very few relationships, both partnership and platonic and so many people who have no relationships at all. Where they either isolated themselves from people because of this programming or have been the unfortunate ones of being on the receiving end of this programming and others simply never gave them the opportunity to get to know them as a person.

I have met people who would go so far as compromising so much of themselves, just to portray an image / personality for others to keep everyone else’s minds happy – where they became astute at being able to assess what other people’s minds expect of them or likes / dislikes / prefers and accordingly moulded themselves to be able to please everyone’s (or as many as possible) minds. This primarily coming from and because of the gossip of others – but even then, despite these efforts, other people’s minds manages to conjure up gossip about one thing or another. Many people do this with awareness – maintaining relationships with others because of the fear of gossip, but do not have any other way of interacting with others and so base their relationships on keeping everyone else happy, while diminishing / limiting themselves…

In this, many people face a conundrum: if you are different – you’ll be isolated / ostracised and many depend on their relationships outside of the work environment, for example, when socialising, doing sports activities / extracurricular activities etc. If you are / do something that fuels gossip, it spreads, it affects your relationships, your general experience of yourself – but not only that, most of the people who’d gossip you may not even know and do not have or are not given the opportunity to share your side of things and so everyone is left to their own Minds, their own assumptions of you and you are powerless to do anything about it.

So…what do we do? What’s the solution?

In the next post we’re going to have a look at how we as individuals can take personal responsibility first and foremost: see where within yourself you accept and allow this programming and participate in the perception, interpretation and assumption programming within yourself when observing other people. This so that you can for yourself see the extent to which you do this to yourself, as well as others in not giving them the opportunity to share who / why / how they are and in so doing – separating you from others in your own Mind with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions more than actually getting to know a person.

From here, we’ll also have a look at what we can do to assist and support ourselves to find a balance in our lives – being aware and considerate, yes, of who we are in thought, word and deed but at the same time not accepting and allowing self to live in fear of gossip or other people’s thoughts / reactions towards you. Obviously being cautious of now wanting to rebel / go to the extreme of “I don’t care what other people think of me” and live in absolute disregard of others – herein we’ll open up the dimension of self-honesty and one’s starting point in thought, word and deed and how important this is in interacting and building relationships with other people, because if you’re going to take an emotional / rebellious stance of “I don’t care / give a shit” – this will obviously create manifested consequence in your life and relationship with others…

We’ll continue more in the next post…

Practically Recognizing my Own Potential (Part 2): DAY 7

Practically Recognizing my Own Potential (Part 2): DAY 7

The Desteni of Living – Utmost Potential (Part 7)

The Principle of Realising and Living my Utmost Potential

In this post and posts to come, I am discussing what ‘Realising and Living my Utmost Potential’ practically means – through showing how I have (and still do) live and realise this Principle.

STEP 1: Recognizing my own Potential (Self Forgiveness)

So, when I started the process of forgiving myself for accepting and allowing such thoughts, for accepting and allowing the emotions to overwhelm me, for accepting and allowing myself to immediately take another’s words personally – especially with an emotional starting point…my eyes started to open to what I was in fact doing to myself and how little I could in fact trust my own thoughts and emotions when it came to listening to them and automatically believing them in this context of taking another’s words personally…instead of taking that step back, HEARING their words, considering them and then responding with commonsense.

In this post I will walk a practical example process of how I assisted and supported myself to change this point within me and my living.

A suggestion I have for those starting process, is to look for yourself in your mind / relationship with others – the ONE point you would like to start changing.

What I did for myself was start my process with the above point I walked in the previous blog and this blog now, which was ‘taking things personally’. I identified this point based on the extent of emotion that was involved within it. Meaning, I asked myself the question: “in what moments / with whom in my life do I ‘break down / become the most emotional’?” Essentially, having a look at where, when and towards whom in my current real-time life experience I accepted and allowed my own thoughts and emotions to change who and how I am the most. With asking myself this question – I identified this point of taking things personally and from there started walking my process of writing, forgiveness and corrective application. To understand WHY and how I accepted and allowed such a point to exist within me, to become AWARE of who I am in relation to the point, its consequences / compromises on me and others, to then from there assert and direct myself to CHANGE me and so my relationship with others.

What I personally found in the beginning of my process is that it was easier for me to identify emotions – the energy-experiences of the Mind. This because the ‘taking things personally’ point was so extensive within me and my relationship to others together – that my Mind moved so FAST in the beginning of my process; I often struggled to be able to stop participation in my thoughts / backchats / projections that would come up and would only realise I was already possessed within a Mind point when the emotional energy was overwhelming.

Later on in my process I came to realise that the main REASON my thoughts, memories, backchats, projections etc. would move so fast, almost too fast for me to take a step back within myself and breathe before the energy would start coming up, is because I had been fuelling this point with emotional energy for most of my life. So much so that, before I knew it – I was already participating in and believing my thoughts, falling into emotional energy and in that state – I was completely in my mind, in an emotional state. There are many things that contribute to a point within your Mind being overwhelming, but for the beginning of your process – starting with taking responsibility for emotions / being in an emotional state will assist and support greatly with taking the first step of realising and applying your potential to decide who and how you are within yourself and your living.

In terms of the research we have done throughout the years through the Portal, we have found that our Minds primarily function off of emotional and feeling energy, so if a point in the Mind contains A LOT of energy – this allows for this point to overwhelm you more easily. Therefore, as with me – when I started taking on the emotional energy connected to the ‘taking things personally’, every moment it came up and I became aware of the energy, how it made me feel, the effects of it on my physical body – I would start speaking self forgiveness within myself until I stabilize and the energy release. Then, once I was out of the energy-veil (this is what I found emotional energy does – it veils you from seeing the detail of what in the mind contributed to generating the substantial amount of energy to be able to see / investigate and introspect the thoughts I would listen to / automatically believe coming up within me) – so, once I was out of the energy-veil, I would sit with myself and write-out what exactly triggered within me, check the nature of the thoughts / backchats / projections and then the next time commit to look out for them and start practising stop participating in the thoughts etc. BEFORE the emotional energy would activate and take over.

Another reason I had found it to be easier to initially identify and forgive emotional energy in relation to a specific point, is that: if you look at where thoughts / backchats / memories etc. comes up – it manifests directly within the centre of your head. This contributes to you more easily / readily directly being caught up in the things that come up in the head – because it’s like “right in your face”, in a way. Yet, emotional energy – I have found, comes up in the solar plexus area of the physical body and because for most of your life, your attention/focus had been right in front of you/within you in the head area – you have more ‘time and space’ to assess, feel and become aware of energy activating in the solar plexus area of the body as you have to actually move yourself / your awareness to a different point / part of your body to identify / define the energy coming up.

In the next post, I will expand more on practical ways I have played with in the beginning of my process as an example of how you can start your process of taking the first step of realising your potential to decide and so change who / how you are within yourself and your living. Also, how I assisted and supported myself to slow myself down, which slowed my Mind down to be able to see and so direct myself effectively in relation to my Mind as the thoughts and emotions.