Here we’ll share practical perspectives, understandings, insights and realisations about self, the mind, the physical, the world, consciousness – and everything and all else in-between as the multi-dimensional existence that we currently consist of and exist as; and within that: practical support and assistance methods/tools/techniques of facing this existence as self in the process of standing-up and standing-together in changing ourselves to change the world.

To Stop the Fight – You have to Understand the Fight…

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To Stop the Fight – You have to Understand the Fight…



I will in the next post share how I am and have been dealing with / directing this ‘fighting’ that I’ve become aware of within me – sharing the nature and design of it within the mind / consciousness and how to support yourself to release your being from such a state of living and experience. More importantly: why it is pivotal to change this nature within yourself to be able to support others to change as well – so that we stop creating and living in a world defined by ‘fighting to live’ and start creating and living in a world defined by reason and purpose and LIVE, for self and all of existence as well.

I will, through walking Self Forgiveness, share insights and realisations I’ve had regarding this ‘fighting nature’ and the extent of it; but more importantly: how I have become aware of the manifested consequence this ‘fighting experience’ creates in your relationship with yourself and everything / everyone else in your life. Where, we’ve become so used to this ‘constant fighting’ with others, within ourselves and with life itself - that we barely recognise / see it.  Yet, the consequence of it comes through / reveals itself in various ways which you may also be able to relate to as I continue through the Self Forgiveness journey:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, in my life – be so focused on my limited definition of the words ‘fighting’ and ‘to fight’ that I always only focused on working through memories / moments of fighting when it came to arguments with people in my life and/or only focusing on fighting as it exists on a global scale when it comes to wars / violence etc. Not allowing myself to take a breath and take a step back when it comes to my personal responsibility of my relationship with me, my own mind and asking myself: “but wait, where EXACTLY are these moments of fighting with myself, with others in the secret of my Mind and/or in real time moments in reality actually coming from?” Why have I not seen / realised that the moments of fighting in the secrets of my mind and/or in real time moments with others are but an outflow consequence of a nature / a part of me coming through that I am accepting and allowing to come into creation when it manifests as fighting in my mind and so also in my relationships with others in my life?

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that I have always only ever been working with the ‘symptoms’ / ‘outflow consequence’ as ‘manifested consequence’ of a core / source nature / part of me in the depths of my mind and being when it came to only focusing on the ‘moments of fights’ in the secrets of my mind and in real moments with others in my life. That I haven’t seen, realised and understood or became aware of the fact that: the ‘fighting’ in my mind and with others in my life only came into creation because there is a deeper part of me in my mind / being bringing it into creation. Not remembering that, the moment something manifests either in one’s mind or one’s life – it’s originating from a greater / deeper part of one’s nature / presence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to diminish and limit my own awareness of me, my mind by always only focusing on the ‘surface’ / ‘conscious’ experiences when it came up in my thoughts and/or when it was actually already too late by the time when I participate in an argument / fight with another person and only during / afterwards wanting to fix / mend the relationship / experience with another. I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand that everything that comes up in my mind and in my life is outflow consequence – it’s already “too late” as it’s something that has already come into creation and manifested.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to “apply the principle of prevention” by taking a breath, taking a step back and asking myself “but what IN me and OF me is bringing these ‘fights’ in my mind and with others in my life into creation?” “Why am I only ever trying to deal with / fix / mend and take responsibility for the fights I accept and allow to play out in my mind / my life only once it’s already happened?”

To take with you in this post: the process I briefly showed above within the Self Forgiveness statements is what assisted and supported me to really see and become aware of the depths and scope of this ‘fighting nature’ within the mind and self. Initially, if you have a look at it: you mostly deal with and sort out ‘fights’ in your mind and with others in your life only during / after it has happened – never realising that such ‘fights’ that already manifested in your mind and your life is but an outflow consequence creation / manifestation…trying to ‘fix’ / ‘mend’ / ‘deal with’ such fighting only during / after is already ‘too late’.

To REALLY understand this nature of fighting within one’s mind and one’s life you have to take a DEEPER look into your mind / consciousness and what within the mind / self is bringing such experiences within self and one’s life into creation.
This I will continue with in the next post – again through Self Forgiveness statements sharing the deeper energy / dimensions of the mind / consciousness involved with bringing such ‘fighting’ within self and with others in one’s life into creation. Also, how to PREVENT the creation / manifestation of such fighting within oneself and one’s mind through the process of redefining and living words…





I’m Tired of Fighting

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I’m Tired of Fighting


We fight with our own thoughts
We fight against the inner conflict we experience when emotions seem to get the upper hand inside ourselves and we’re fraught in moments with what seems to be a never-ending chaos
We fight with ourselves to act normal – be presentable, accepted, not judged
We fight when we judge ourselves
We fight just to get through another day
We fight with ourselves in the mornings to wake up
We fight with ourselves in the evening to try and rest
We fight with money
We fight with survival
We fight with others in our imaginations or through our actions / words
We even fight when we suppress – subtly manipulating ourselves or others out of spite
We feel like we have to fight sometimes to be heard or seen
We feel like we have to fight against the world / people / systems to help reach out to those who can’t help themselves – such as reaching out for funding, donations, food, water, education, healthcare and other basic needs
We fight with our own bodies
We fight with the nature / experience of our present lives – never happy / satisfied with who we are, why we are, where we are
We fight for a better self / mind / body
We fight against other’s beliefs, opinions, ideas, religions, spiritualities, views
We fight with our own memories
We fight with our imaginations / fantasies
We fight to survive
We fight to live
We fight to be loved / accepted / cherished, cared for, noticed
We fight when we do our best to stand up for others who can’t in moments for themselves, when most around you want to fight / attack
We fight when we believe the solution we see to things is the ONLY way and not willing to incorporate or include others’ insights and perspectives to expand on solutions even more
We fight to try and make a difference to so many problems in this world – when you have to come against the money system, politics, governments, laws, officials
We fight to try and make a difference in another’s person’s life who refuses to help themselves / change for the better of not only themselves but others as well
We fight with our own suppressions
We fight through addictions / habitual behaviour patterns we know are compromising ourselves and others on some level or another
We fight for change
We fight to change
We fight the very food we eat
We fight the water we drink
We fight healthcare systems
We fight money systems
We fight against political systems
We fight against education systems
We fight against governments
We fight those who have money
We fight those who don’t have money
We fight with ourselves when we make a mistake
We fight with others when they make mistakes…
…the list can go on when you start seeing and understanding this nature of fighting that exists within us and our lives.

For today’s post – I would like each one to realise and observe how much and how often this nature of ‘fighting’ comes through within yourself, towards yourself, towards others and life in general. It happens so much and so often…it’s shocking to realise for yourself the extent to which we still accept and allow this in everyday life.
I have given examples above regarding this nature of fighting. To specify more: this nature / experience of fighting can come through in subtle and intense ways inside yourself, towards others and life in general. It’s the experience in moments where your emotions intensify, your body becomes rigid / tense and your entire being / presence goes into a state of ‘attack or defence’. These moments actually happen more throughout your day than you realise – leading to a mental and physical exhaustion we are barely aware of, but can create many different outflow consequences.

So, for this post: have a look at the nature of fighting in the small / subtle moments of everyday life. To become aware of the extent this ‘fighting experience’ exists within you, because in the next post we’ll have a look at how this often leads to a moment within yourself where you say: “I’m tired of fighting” / “I don’t want to fight anymore” / “Is there another way”? I have reached this point within myself and my process many times when I accepted and allowed this ‘nature of fighting’ within me to take control / overwhelm my thoughts and emotional experiences – reaching a point of mental and physical exhaustion that this ‘fighting experience’ within me has created. But, it also opened my eyes to realising the various ways this ‘fighting’ has come to manifest on a collective and global scale within humanity and why my eyes were previously veiled from seeing the extent of the problem when it comes to this dimension of ‘fighting’ that exists within us all in one way or another.

I will in the next post share how I am and have been dealing with / directing this ‘fighting’ that I’ve become aware of within me – sharing the nature and design of it within the mind / consciousness and how to support yourself to release your being from such a state of living and experience. More importantly: why it is pivotal to change this nature within yourself to be able to support others to change as well – so that we stop creating and living in a world defined by ‘fighting to live’ and start creating and living in a world defined by reason and purpose and LIVE, for self and all of existence as well. 

If can’t Beat ‘em…Join ‘em: Changing your relationship to Sleepless nights

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If can’t Beat ‘em…Join ‘em: Changing your relationship to Sleepless nights


In the next post I will continue with how these three dimensions of conflict contributes to sleepless, restless nights and the irony of wanting to use sleep as an escape mechanism…yet, you’ll find your worries, fears and problems follow you to sleep and tends to do the exact opposite by keeping you awake!

It almost feels like you’re being ‘lead on’ by your own mind and body the moments before getting into bed – because you experience enough tiredness / exhaustion to know you can just close your eyes and be off to a good night’s rest…but then, while you’re getting comfortable: here comes the thoughts and emotions rushing into your mind - perpetuating you into a state of awakeness. Suddenly everything becomes uncomfortable, you can’t find a position to sleep / rest in, being thrown between experiences of being awake and exhausted as your thoughts and emotions refuse to settle down.

We tend to miss the obvious: the ONE place where you can make a difference, where you can take control – is INSIDE yourself when it comes to your relationship with your OWN mind. This is the ONE place / space where only YOU exist. Yet, we tend to want to change everything else OUTSIDE ourselves, THINK about everything / everyone else OUTSIDE ourselves - taking the OUTER reality into the INNER reality wrap it up in emotional energy / reactions...and so we create a compound effect of problems / issues WITHIN ourselves.
The KEY here is to ‘unwrap’ the emotional charges / energy from the outer-reality problems / issues you’ve brought into your inner reality. Your inner reality should be a ‘sanctuary’ of sorts where you do not accept and allow emotional reactions to veil your inner eye / sight as your directive principle to be able to LOOK at / assess things within and as self honesty, stability and clarity to so be able to make informed decisions when it comes to finding / creating solutions to things coming up inside yourself / that you face in everyday life.
If we cannot handle or direct as finding solutions for the things going on in our INNER REALITY we’re connected to and DIRECTLY responsible for…the very INNER REALITY relationship we have with ourselves will be reflected in our outer reality and relationship to the people, situations and environments we’re exposed to in everyday life.

One thing to realise is that: your inner reality won’t sort itself out. It’s interesting how we tend to find any and every way possible to run away / suppress or just ignore the things we’re fighting with inside ourselves. With the consequences – staying in the very thoughts and reactions of problems / issues inside yourself, tossing and turning at nights, fuelling the stress / anxieties levels making concentration and living during the days to come so much more difficult…Yet we wouldn’t put in the time or effort to take a breather, take a moment, even a couple of minutes of the day to slow down and introspect / reflect on the troubles we’re accepting and allowing ourselves to haunt our minds and compromise the health and stability of our physical bodies…

In the next post I will continue expanding on how you can use the time and also physical and mental energy in the evenings when you cannot sleep due to problems / issues in your thoughts / mind keeping you awake: to rather than remaining in the thoughts and reactions, using mental and physical energy to do so – use the time and energy to do introspection / reflection and sort out / direct the experiences inside yourself.
This will over time assist and support you to develop the directive principle within yourself to not accept and allow your inner reality to be thwarted with conflict – but direct and sort out your inner reality in such a way where, when conflicts arise: you’re immediately present and aware to be able to sort it out and find solutions, so that you can support yourself to be in a state of stability and groundedness within and without; and so handle the issues / problems everyday life may present to you with much more stability and groundedness.