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Dependable: Bad ending for Fantasy = Happy ending for Reality

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Dependable: Bad ending for Fantasy = Happy ending for Reality


I will in the next post continue with sharing how, when and where this idea of myself was challenged when it met with reality. How self honesty supported me to realise this. Finally, how to assist and support yourself to prevent yourself from creating IDEAS about yourself when it comes to redefining and living words, but always keep the door of opportunity for learning, expansion and growth open.

We are often so caught up in our imaginations and fantasies, so much so that: when our fantasies ‘come back to earth’ and meet with reality – we, in the moment when it happens, feel as though ourselves and our world is falling apart. Yet, with time – we, with the (often challenging) support of reality, equally release ourselves from the fantasy and become, once again, anchored into the physical, what’s real, what’s here.

This is to a degree what happened with me when the idea I created of myself in my mind of being ‘dependable’ was challenged by reality. My definition of fantasy, here, is with regards to the fantastical, the illusion, the imaginary that we so easily create within our Minds. Come to think of it, an interesting point emerges in this moment: how we seem to be so apt when it comes to creating the fantastical, the imaginary, the illusion in our Minds…yet, when it comes to creating something REAL, something SUBSTANTIAL, something long lasting IN THIS WORLD, IN THIS REALITY – it seems impossible? I’ll expand more on this in posts to come.
(This is the process we’re walking with SOUL: LIVING WORDS. This process assists and supports with showing you how to create yourself, your life, your relationships, your future through redefining and living words. Aligning your being / awareness to LIVE and CREATE more IN THIS WORLD, IN THIS REALITY than the Mind / Consciousness.)

Yes, I did manage to LIVE the word DEPENDABLE and transform my relationship with myself in relation to mistakes and my working environment. Yet, equally so – I managed to create an IDEA, an ILLUSION of myself in my relationship to living the word dependable. It wasn’t a good or bad thing: purely a learning curve for which I am grateful. Because, once again – I made a mistake and made it in a way where I can now share this process with each one reading. In so doing, you learn through me in a way where you don’t have to make the same mistakes, but can from the get go consider to: when redefining and living words – walk the process from the get-go where you ensure that your redefinition process is continuous, always leaving room for expansion and not limit your redefinition / living process by creating ABSOLUTES and through that an IDEA of yourself. Because, guaranteed: Reality will meet fantasy and you’ll be brought down back to earth in quite the unpleasant way / experience lol especially when you believed in / lived your idea / illusionary self definition so absolutely lol

So, to take with you from the process I walked – and I will in the next post continue with explaining / expanding on the creation of ideas, the illusionary self-definitions – is to, whenever you redefine a word, in fine print have within your redefinition process the words:

“I see, realise and understand that I am redefining and living this word within the context of myself, my life and my relationships right now. I see, realise and understand that I may change, my life may change and my relationships may change. In this unpredictable nature/context of life itself – I hereby take into account that as I may change with everything in my life changing – so will who I am in and as the words I’m redefining and living change. Change can come with realisation or challenges that everyday life brings me. But, I hereby commit to assist and support me, to – either with realisation change or challenge change, always keep my redefining and living of words OPEN, to learn, to grow, to expand within myself and my everyday life experiences. In so doing, not limiting myself to absolutes and ideas – but assist and support myself to reach my utmost potential through constant / continuous growth, expansion and development.”





Once upon a time, there was an Idea that met with Reality…

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Once upon a time, there was an Idea that met with Reality…


In the next post I will share more tangible, practical examples expanding on making a definition of a word too ABSOLUTE and not allowing yourself to be FLEXIBLE within redefining and living words. Also, what can happen when you try and be TOO PERFECT within living a redefined word and how you can create positive and negative polarities within yourself, relationships and life in general – which can contribute to the experience of ‘falling, standing up, falling’ – instead of more looking at such a process as a process of learning, reflecting and changing.

Continuing with my process with the word dependable: in this post I’m going to share how I discovered that an IDEA I created about myself in my Mind – interfered with my process of expanding myself and my relationship/living within the word dependable. How this ‘idea’ contributed to making my definition and living of myself ‘too absolute’ / ‘polarised’; to the extent where I blamed myself for having done something wrong / not being good enough (other times even blamed other people for my ‘falling’ in the living of the word dependable). Instead of realising that: there was nothing ‘wrong’ / ‘I nor anyone was to blame’ / ‘I didn’t fall’. All the while it was an IDEA running in the background of my mind simply interfering with me seeing, realising and understanding that all I needed to do was to change, move, expand and GROW within myself and my definition of the word dependable!

Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself is one of the dimensions that interferes with allowing you to be more ‘flexible’ in your self definition that emerge once you redefined yourself through redefining and living a word. Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself shifts MOST of you into this ONE / few idea(s) and so can lose touch with the truth of you and the reality of the unpredictable / unexpected nature of everyday life. I realised that it was an IDEA about myself that was in fact challenging my definition, redefinition and living of the word dependable / self dependable when it came to my process regarding mistakes and also my process in my relationship with other people. This idea ‘trapped me’ to not be able to EXPAND myself, my redefinition and living of the word dependable; because when the IDEA of myself was challenged – I went into blaming myself / being hard on myself; thinking I WAS THE PROBLEM lol Yes, to a certain extent “I” was the problem, but not ALL of me – only a part of me that became defined into / as this idea. Let me explain:

From the previous posts I shared how I initially started my redefinition of the word dependable when it came to changing my relationship to mistakes and then in my working environment with specific people. This during a time where my life was pretty much the same / consistent day in and day out. Not very much exposed to different people / environments. So, with living the redefinition of the word dependable ONLY with here and there everyday life mistakes and becoming dependable in my work environment, my relationship with others: this is where I started creating this IDEA about myself to the extent of “I can make and face ANY mistake and I’ll handle it like a pro!” / “I am SO good in my dependable work relationships / relationship with others – I can do this anywhere, with anyone, any time!”
This is what I mean with ‘creating an IDEA’ about yourself. Yes, I may have transcended my relationship to mistakes, to my working environment and people within it: but by no means can I state that I can stand before ANY and EVERY mistake, ANY and EVERY person and be a ‘pro’ when it comes to being dependable. I’d only started my process. I was only a beginner. So, when this idea of myself met with REALITY – where my environment and relationship with people / beings changed: lol was this idea of myself challenged!!! I am eternally grateful for this challenge reality brought, well – the gratefulness only came after learning from it of course, the challenge itself was rather difficult!

I will in the next post continue with sharing how, when and where this idea of myself was challenged when it met with reality. How self honesty supported me to realise this. Finally, how to assist and support yourself to prevent yourself from creating IDEAS about yourself when it comes to redefining and living words, but always keep the door of opportunity for learning, expansion and growth open.

Enjoy!

Dependable: From a Perfect Beginner to a Perfect Faller…

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Dependable: From a Perfect Beginner to a Perfect Faller…



I will continue more with this in the next post to come – also expanding on the consequential role that perfection played within it all, even though I have redefined and lived the word dependable. This is also something that you will find in the process of redefining and living words: you may sometimes find yourself in other situations, environments and people that throws the living of your words ‘off course for a moment and other old patterns can creep back in’. Meaning, I may in ONE environment with SPECIFIC people walked the process of redefining and living the word dependable, but when I was faced with something different – it challenged my redefinition / living of the words in a way where I needed to EXPAND on it. So, redefining and living words is a constant, continuous process of self expansion through LIVING!

In my working environment in my early twenties, I learned BALANCE through considering me, my relationship with others, my time and my responsibilities / obligations – accordingly prioritising myself, everything and everyone in a functional, practical way; leading to becoming the living words dependable, hardworking, reliable as well as doing the best for me and everyone else. This including my general life process when it came to making mistakes, being able to learn from them and change myself through them – sharing this process and being a supportive living example for others.

However…lol, what happened within my mind was imbuing my process of learning from mistakes and changing myself from and through them as well as being dependable within the working environment and people in it, with none other than PERFECTION. In other words, as I walked through one layer of perfection when it came to ‘never wanting to make mistakes in the first place’ - it morphed / opened up into ALWAYS learning from my mistakes IMMEDIATELY, as fast as possible as best as possible and if I didn’t…but still made similar / same mistakes or the change process taking longer than I wanted it to or expected from myself: back creeped in the nature of ‘perfection’, just in another, different way. Or if, in the working environment, I didn’t BALANCE myself, my relationship with others, time and obligations / responsibilities properly – in came the ‘perfection’ dimension in relation to not balancing ‘perfectly’ / ‘good enough’ through my own eyes.
So, it’s been interesting to observe the CHALLENGES I have faced within myself in this process that opened up through the word DEPENDABLE and how my process, relationship and living with the word perfection seriously made my experience and change within the word dependable so the more difficult.

This then lead me to start walking my process within and through the word PERFECTION and investigating how this DOMINANT word within and as me has been influencing my process in many different ways. Especially also in another dimension where I recognised this word was coming through which was when it came to creating the IDEA that ‘I am officially self dependable in my trust to walk through and learn from ALL mistakes’…until ‘life happens’ and brings you circumstances, situations and moments with yourself and other people that truly brings such IDEAS in the MIND back to REALITY. Throughout my experiences, I eventually realised I made my definition of dependable DEPENDENT again on ‘making it through mistakes and being a supportive example from me for others’, essentially here LIMITING my definition of dependable, because I did not allow myself to be FLEXIBLE within who I am as dependable when it comes to my own self honesty and self trust.

So, when my life changed from my working environment and so the nature of my exposure to life and I started making ‘new types of mistakes’ within myself and my life, mistakes I was never exposed to before: I FELL. I went back into isolation, suppression, judgment, being hard on myself – I PERFECTLY FELL lol and this time into the OPPOSITE POLARITY where I didn’t balance myself, my relationships my time and obligations / responsibilities at all but kept my participation in myself and life to the bare minimum. I eventually managed to stand up from this process – but challenging it was indeed.

So, to take with you for today in your process of walking defining, redefining and living words is: Never to make an ABSOLUTE definition / process of a word, such as the mistake I made where I made my definition of DEPENDABLE absolute when it came to mistakes and who I am within and as mistakes. Eventually I learned the following and expanded my self definition of dependable in a way where: I know that, whatever the mistake, no matter how tough, I will possibly even make mistakes WITHIN a mistake lol – but one thing I have proven to myself, dropping all the judgments, being hard on myself etc. is that: I well get through it, stand up from it.
So, my dependable-trust relationship then transformed into and as the HEART of me which is: I AM HERE, I trust me that with my self honesty as I walk through and process myself within and as a mistake that I will get through it, learn from, stand up and change – no matter how long it takes, I AM HERE and I am walking. This is the final statement I have proven to myself since then - and the definition that has supported me throughout all this time up until now, I could expand this also into any and every challenges I face within myself, my life.

In the next post I will share more tangible, practical examples expanding on making a definition of a word too ABSOLUTE and not allowing yourself to be FLEXIBLE within redefining and living words. Also, what can happen when you try and be TOO PERFECT within living a redefined word and how you can create positive and negative polarities within yourself, relationships and life in general – which can contribute to the experience of ‘falling, standing up, falling’ – instead of more looking at such a process as a process of learning, reflecting and changing.