Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

The Evil that is Gossip (Part 2)

One of the primary things that fuels gossip is the relationship between perception, interpretation and assumption. I have had conversations with many different people and the one thing that’s common when they started talking about others is: they in their Minds perceive another’s behaviour, then interpret it according to their own ideas / opinions of the particular behaviour and from there assume their perception and interpretation is correct because they believe their references in the Mind more than actually walking the space and time process of getting to know a person.

So, if you take a step back within yourself and access some memories (or simply observe your mind when you’re around other people) – within this having a look at the processes unfolding within your thinking / internal conversations when watching others: you’ll see how you’ll watch someone talk / move / do something, then slightly or overtly react to them, then in your mind’s eye ‘see’ a projection/imagination that encapsulates the overall ‘image’ of the person and then you’ll start creating an experience towards them based on your emotional / feeling reaction. From here, depending on the reaction being positive or negative and depending on what data/information/memories/programming you have already within your Mind – thoughts, backchats etc. will start activating. Here, your Mind is starting to create a relationship with the person based on emotion, based on feelings, based on data/information/memories/programming of your Consciousness.

For most part we have observed that people will approach / respond / simply stay away from people based on this platform in the Mind which constantly decides on the relationship with another based on perception, interpretation and assumption. Where individuals aren’t even aware of how little they ASK questions to another person, but in fact reference this perception-interpretation-assumption equation in the Mind where either positive and/or negative things will accumulate and as time passes – if the result is more positive, the person will continue a relationship, if more negative, the person will slowly but surely distance themselves.

So, it’s to for yourself see how this particular programming of your Consciousness operates. Referencing / believing this initial ‘assessment’ of a person in your Mind more than actually asking them questions, having conversations, spending time together and getting to know them – is causing a separation within humanity where you have so many people in very few relationships, both partnership and platonic and so many people who have no relationships at all. Where they either isolated themselves from people because of this programming or have been the unfortunate ones of being on the receiving end of this programming and others simply never gave them the opportunity to get to know them as a person.

I have met people who would go so far as compromising so much of themselves, just to portray an image / personality for others to keep everyone else’s minds happy – where they became astute at being able to assess what other people’s minds expect of them or likes / dislikes / prefers and accordingly moulded themselves to be able to please everyone’s (or as many as possible) minds. This primarily coming from and because of the gossip of others – but even then, despite these efforts, other people’s minds manages to conjure up gossip about one thing or another. Many people do this with awareness – maintaining relationships with others because of the fear of gossip, but do not have any other way of interacting with others and so base their relationships on keeping everyone else happy, while diminishing / limiting themselves…

In this, many people face a conundrum: if you are different – you’ll be isolated / ostracised and many depend on their relationships outside of the work environment, for example, when socialising, doing sports activities / extracurricular activities etc. If you are / do something that fuels gossip, it spreads, it affects your relationships, your general experience of yourself – but not only that, most of the people who’d gossip you may not even know and do not have or are not given the opportunity to share your side of things and so everyone is left to their own Minds, their own assumptions of you and you are powerless to do anything about it.

So…what do we do? What’s the solution?

In the next post we’re going to have a look at how we as individuals can take personal responsibility first and foremost: see where within yourself you accept and allow this programming and participate in the perception, interpretation and assumption programming within yourself when observing other people. This so that you can for yourself see the extent to which you do this to yourself, as well as others in not giving them the opportunity to share who / why / how they are and in so doing – separating you from others in your own Mind with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions more than actually getting to know a person.

From here, we’ll also have a look at what we can do to assist and support ourselves to find a balance in our lives – being aware and considerate, yes, of who we are in thought, word and deed but at the same time not accepting and allowing self to live in fear of gossip or other people’s thoughts / reactions towards you. Obviously being cautious of now wanting to rebel / go to the extreme of “I don’t care what other people think of me” and live in absolute disregard of others – herein we’ll open up the dimension of self-honesty and one’s starting point in thought, word and deed and how important this is in interacting and building relationships with other people, because if you’re going to take an emotional / rebellious stance of “I don’t care / give a shit” – this will obviously create manifested consequence in your life and relationship with others…

We’ll continue more in the next post…

My Relationship with Emotions

My Relationship with Emotions

Quantum Time and Physical Space-Time Equilibrium (continued)

Who I am as Patience (continued)

For context from the previous post:

In the next post, we will continue with how we’re going to change our relationship from Energy + Mind = consequential relationship with the physical body to SELF/Awareness + Mind = equal and one relationship with the physical body as the process of aligning quantum time and physical space-time into equilibrium within and as ourselves and so finally into and as the real living expression of/as Patience.

Look – the ‘problem’ we face with the “rock bands” as the energy (emotions and feelings) of the Mind Consciousness System is the nature and content of the SONGS that the rock bands produce, meaning – how it is that the INSTRUMENTS are being used. So the same with the Mind – the problem we face with the Mind is HOW WE USE it and the nature and content of what we produce within the Mind. So, what firstly needs to change is our relationship to the Mind, how we use its instruments / infrastructure and from there – re-align the relationship of the Mind as ourselves into and as the Physical Body. Again, we’re faced with the same ‘problem’: we have accepted and allowed ENERGY (emotions and feelings) to direct/produce who/how we are within the Mind – instead of our self-awareness / commonsense; and it has been this relationship between energy and the mind that has separated us from ourselves and our direct, equal and one relationship with the physical body.

Look, as we have explained in interviews on EQAFE: it’s not that the Mind-itself is ‘bad’ – it’s how we’re using it that is the ‘problem’. Fascinating, the emphasis here being “it’s how WE’RE using it that is the problem” – so the Responsibility of the Mind – its nature and content, is existent within our relationship to it in relation to what we accept / allow existing within and as our Minds. Thus, again I state: It’s not the MIND in itself that is the problem – but WHO WE ARE within and as it. Here – the “Mind” being: thoughts, the internal conversations we have within ourselves, imaginations / projections / fantasies, emotions and feelings, behavioural patterns etc. Essentially, the “Mind” being everything we use to express / live and function within ourselves, our world and relationship to others.

What has to be seen, realised and understood when it comes to the Mind and who/how we are within and as it – is that we have a relationship with it. This means, as with the context of relationships – two (or more) parties are involved that will affect / influence each other based on the agreement that exist between the parties / individuals as to the context of the relationship. The context of the relationship being:

-          What you and/or the other want to achieve within the relationship. ‘Achievements’ standing within the context of ‘goals’ – short-term and long-term.

-          How you and/or the other can support each other’s strengths and weaknesses – to grow within the relationship individually and together

-          Establishing effective communication – when communicating, your words and definitions are aligned, so that both always  know where you stand with each other when communicating and no miscommunication can ensue because of not understanding each other’s words and definitions attached to them

-          What exactly the relationship means to each-other, where is the relationship starting-off, where do you want to take the relationship, what you want to change about yourself / together to become stronger in life and living

-          Really getting to know yourself and the other – INTIMACY, to so be able to establish where you stand with yourself and so the other, so that there is never a doubt in who you are individually and together

So, in terms of ‘relationships’ - just having a look at the general nature of relationships, I can continue with a long list of how one can for example look at your relationship with another individual and construct / create the relationship effectively as a process where two individuals come together in to realise how a relationship can become an effective platform of creation, individually and together.

The point I’d like to make here is that: we often just “fall into relationships” with other people – we do not actively really sit down with ourselves and the other individual(s) and really go in-depth into our consciousness / who/how we are / who/how the other is and see what potential the relationship has to really facilitate a process of individual growth, expansion and development. We have done the same with our own Minds – we have simply “fallen into a relationship” with it, without realising that we have the directive, power, ability and responsibility to in fact DECIDE and CREATE an effective relationship with our OWN MINDS – where the Mind and who/how we are within it SUPPORTS our living in this world and relationship with others, rather than compromising it.

So, what we’re going to be walking in posts to come is having a look at how we’ve simply “fallen into a relationship with the Mind and ESPECIALLY emotional/feeling energy” and how we can change that relationship to the Mind – our thoughts, backchats, imaginations, emotional/feeling energy = where the Mind becomes an EXTENSION of who/how we are and what we want to live/experience. What I am going to show / illustrate especially is how – emotional/feeling energy, the very energy experiences that has facilitated the separation between Quantum Time and Physical Space and Time, purely exists because we have used emotional/feeling energy as our “Conscience” the ‘deciding factor’ of who/how we are in the Mind and so our living – because we haven’t established our AWARENESS, our SELF-AWARENESS as the deciding factor / ‘conscience’ when it comes to making decisions in relation to who we are and how/what we live.

In the next post we’ll start with our relationship to emotional/feeling energy – start with seeing, realising and understanding how we’ve “fallen into a relationship” with emotional/feeling energy, without knowing that we can in fact decide, direct and establish who/how we are in relation to emotional/feeling energy of the Mind/Consciousness. Also, why it is important to in fact UNDERSTAND what emotional/feeling energy is and how we have consequentially been using/abusing it – simply because we have not taken the responsibility in/as our Self-Awareness for who we are and how/what we live within ourselves.

Patience as Self/Living Expression

Patience as Self/Living Expression

Who I am as Patience (continued)

Here and example of how one’s relationship to emotional/feeling reactions brings forth self-expression and living-expression within oneself and one’s world – all of which brings us to the most important question within this all: What is Patience then, if not an feeling-reaction as part of the Mind/Consciousness? How do we change who we are in relationship to this word from a feeling-reaction of Consciousness, to a Self/Living Expression in the Physical?

Walking through the emotional and feeling reactions of Impatience / Patience towards Time and Sequences of Events – we discovered the self-expression of self-empowerment in relation to Time and Sequences of Events, as well as the living-expression of self-direction where one has the power to direct oneself in relation to Time and Sequences of Events. No Reactions needed.

Let’s in this post explore what Patience is as a Self and Living Expression:

Patience is the embracing of all time and of all sequences of events. Patience is standing equal to and one with all time and all sequences of events. Patience is to be HERE. Patience is a stand within and as oneself where one knows when one has to step back, wait and when one has to act. Patience is to know when to let something / someone go for a moment / a while and when to hold on. Patience is a stand within and as oneself, where – despite not knowing what the outcomes may be: one continue walking / standing here, because of the trust within oneself that with every moment of walking / applying / standing and changing oneself/the moment within the principle of what’s best for all – this will come to manifest as oneself.

What we’re looking at here is the following:

The positive feeling reaction of Patience, has been connected to ‘man-made Time’ (seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years etc.) ‘Man-made Time’ is more a mental interpretation of sequences of events of reality and with there existing a positive feeling energy in relation to Time in the MIND – as the mind/consciousness operate / function, it has to maintain a balance when it comes to polarity. Meaning, because there is a positive feeling energy – there has to exist a negative emotional energy, which is where Impatience comes in. So, the purpose for the existence of Impatience was to balance the positive feeling reaction of Patience in the Mind. (How the Mind works with Positive and Negative feeling and emotional energy – is walked in detail within the Quantum Mind Self Awareness Interview Series)

Patience as a Self/Living Expression – is related to the HERE. HERE being the stand in one’s physical body where one has access to the quantum multi-dimensions of the Mind and the Physical and can within this relationship: access all ‘time-frames and play-outs’ in REALITY as the sequences of events that flow from our Mind-Physical relationship. It’s where one stand in equality and oneness with and as how the Mind moves in reality and how the physical moves in reality.

See: if we ONLY exist in the Mind, in a positive / negative relationship to ‘man-made Time’ – then we can only see such a time-frame in reality and so also only assess sequences of events / play-outs within ‘man-made Time’. Whereas, if we’re in equality and oneness with and as the Mind and the Physical, standing HERE with the Mind and the Body: we have access to seeing ‘all time-frames’ – how the Mind moves and the Body moves. Now, to explain this more practically – have a look at the following:

The Mind MOVES, the Body MOVES – it is in constant perpetual motion. It is this MOVEMENT of the Mind and the Body, individually and together that human beings in the Conscious/Subconscious Mind (that are stuck in a relationship to ‘man-made Time’) don’t have access to. When you’re standing in/as the HERE – you have access to this ‘movement’ of the Mind and Body individually and together and can from there relatively assess/determine the outflows / play-outs of sequences of events in reality and from there – equate it into ‘man-made Time’. The equation looks as follows:

Movement = Sequences of Events = Time

With one’s starting point being ‘the HERE’ – one then see how things REALLY move, come into creation / materialize into physical reality to manifest sequences of events that one can then equate into Time. See, as mentioned in the previous posts – we’ve always lived in reverse. We’ve looked at physical reality in/as the tunnel-vision time-frame of TIME only, when the mind and physical reality is not functioning in relation to Time at all – but MOVEMENT. With having access to this MOVEMENT, with understanding this MOVEMENT – one can understand what the HERE is, what PATIENCE is, in fact as a Living/Self Expression.

In the next post, we’ll continue with practical examples to understand the HERE, to understand the MOVEMENT of the Mind and the Body, to understand what it means to stand equal to and one with Time and Sequences of Events and finally to understand what PATIENCE in fact is within it all.