If can’t Beat ‘em…Join
‘em: Changing your relationship to Sleepless nights
In the next post I
will continue with how these three dimensions of conflict contributes to
sleepless, restless nights and the irony of wanting to use sleep as an escape
mechanism…yet, you’ll find your worries, fears and problems follow you to sleep
and tends to do the exact opposite by keeping you awake!
It almost feels like you’re being ‘lead on’ by your own mind
and body the moments before getting into bed – because you experience enough
tiredness / exhaustion to know you can just close your eyes and be off to a
good night’s rest…but then, while you’re getting comfortable: here comes the thoughts
and emotions rushing into your mind - perpetuating you into a state of
awakeness. Suddenly everything becomes uncomfortable, you can’t find a position
to sleep / rest in, being thrown between experiences of being awake and
exhausted as your thoughts and emotions refuse to settle down.
We tend to miss the obvious: the ONE place where you can
make a difference, where you can take control – is INSIDE yourself when it
comes to your relationship with your OWN mind. This is the ONE place / space
where only YOU exist. Yet, we tend to want to change everything else OUTSIDE
ourselves, THINK about everything / everyone else OUTSIDE ourselves - taking
the OUTER reality into the INNER reality wrap it up in emotional energy /
reactions...and so we create a compound effect of problems / issues WITHIN
ourselves.
The KEY here is to ‘unwrap’ the emotional charges / energy
from the outer-reality problems / issues you’ve brought into your inner
reality. Your inner reality should be a ‘sanctuary’ of sorts where you do not
accept and allow emotional reactions to veil your inner eye / sight as your
directive principle to be able to LOOK at / assess things within and as self
honesty, stability and clarity to so be able to make informed decisions when it
comes to finding / creating solutions to things coming up inside yourself /
that you face in everyday life.
If we cannot handle or direct as finding solutions for the
things going on in our INNER REALITY we’re connected to and DIRECTLY
responsible for…the very INNER REALITY relationship we have with ourselves will
be reflected in our outer reality and relationship to the people, situations
and environments we’re exposed to in everyday life.
One thing to realise is that: your inner reality won’t sort
itself out. It’s interesting how we tend to find any and every way possible to
run away / suppress or just ignore the things we’re fighting with inside
ourselves. With the consequences – staying in the very thoughts and reactions
of problems / issues inside yourself, tossing and turning at nights, fuelling
the stress / anxieties levels making concentration and living during the days
to come so much more difficult…Yet we wouldn’t put in the time or effort to
take a breather, take a moment, even a couple of minutes of the day to slow
down and introspect / reflect on the troubles we’re accepting and allowing
ourselves to haunt our minds and compromise the health and stability of our
physical bodies…
In the next post I will continue expanding on how you can
use the time and also physical and mental energy in the evenings when you
cannot sleep due to problems / issues in your thoughts / mind keeping you awake:
to rather than remaining in the thoughts and reactions, using mental and physical
energy to do so – use the time and energy to do introspection / reflection and
sort out / direct the experiences inside yourself.
This will over time assist and support you to develop the
directive principle within yourself to not accept and allow your inner reality
to be thwarted with conflict – but direct and sort out your inner reality in
such a way where, when conflicts arise: you’re immediately present and aware to
be able to sort it out and find solutions, so that you can support yourself to
be in a state of stability and groundedness within and without; and so handle
the issues / problems everyday life may present to you with much more stability
and groundedness.
