Once upon a time, there was an Idea that met with
Reality…
In the next
post I will share more tangible, practical examples expanding on making a
definition of a word too ABSOLUTE and not allowing yourself to be FLEXIBLE
within redefining and living words. Also, what can happen when you try and be
TOO PERFECT within living a redefined word and how you can create positive and
negative polarities within yourself, relationships and life in general – which
can contribute to the experience of ‘falling, standing up, falling’ – instead
of more looking at such a process as a process of learning, reflecting and
changing.
Continuing with my process with the word dependable:
in this post I’m going to share how I discovered that an IDEA I created about
myself in my Mind – interfered with my process of expanding myself and my
relationship/living within the word dependable. How this ‘idea’ contributed to
making my definition and living of myself ‘too absolute’ / ‘polarised’; to the
extent where I blamed myself for having done something wrong / not being good
enough (other times even blamed other people for my ‘falling’ in the living of
the word dependable). Instead of realising that: there was nothing ‘wrong’ / ‘I
nor anyone was to blame’ / ‘I didn’t fall’. All the while it was an IDEA
running in the background of my mind simply interfering with me seeing,
realising and understanding that all I needed to do was to change, move, expand
and GROW within myself and my definition of the word dependable!
Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself is one of the
dimensions that interferes with allowing you to be more ‘flexible’ in your self
definition that emerge once you redefined yourself through redefining and
living a word. Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself shifts MOST of you into this
ONE / few idea(s) and so can lose touch with the truth of you and the reality
of the unpredictable / unexpected nature of everyday life. I realised that it
was an IDEA about myself that was in fact challenging my definition,
redefinition and living of the word dependable / self dependable when it came
to my process regarding mistakes and also my process in my relationship with
other people. This idea ‘trapped me’ to not be able to EXPAND myself, my
redefinition and living of the word dependable; because when the IDEA of myself
was challenged – I went into blaming myself / being hard on myself; thinking I
WAS THE PROBLEM lol Yes, to a certain extent “I” was the problem, but not ALL
of me – only a part of me that became defined into / as this idea. Let me
explain:
From the previous posts I shared how I initially
started my redefinition of the word dependable when it came to changing my
relationship to mistakes and then in my working environment with specific people.
This during a time where my life was pretty much the same / consistent day in
and day out. Not very much exposed to different people / environments. So, with
living the redefinition of the word dependable ONLY with here and there
everyday life mistakes and becoming dependable in my work environment, my
relationship with others: this is where I started creating this IDEA about
myself to the extent of “I can make and face ANY mistake and I’ll handle it
like a pro!” / “I am SO good in my dependable work relationships / relationship
with others – I can do this anywhere, with anyone, any time!”
This is what I mean with ‘creating an IDEA’ about
yourself. Yes, I may have transcended my relationship to mistakes, to my
working environment and people within it: but by no means can I state that I
can stand before ANY and EVERY mistake, ANY and EVERY person and be a ‘pro’
when it comes to being dependable. I’d only started my process. I was only a
beginner. So, when this idea of myself met with REALITY – where my environment
and relationship with people / beings changed: lol was this idea of myself
challenged!!! I am eternally grateful for this challenge reality brought, well –
the gratefulness only came after learning from it of course, the challenge
itself was rather difficult!
I will in the next post continue with sharing how,
when and where this idea of myself was challenged when it met with reality. How
self honesty supported me to realise this. Finally, how to assist and support
yourself to prevent yourself from creating IDEAS about yourself when it comes
to redefining and living words, but always keep the door of opportunity for
learning, expansion and growth open.
Enjoy!
