tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83054767331783449312024-02-07T10:21:48.639-08:00Practical DesteniSunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.comBlogger66125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-68179520863572059882016-07-20T06:41:00.000-07:002016-07-20T06:41:08.286-07:00From my Own Worst Enemy to becoming my Own Best Friend<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
From my Own Worst Enemy to becoming my Own Best Friend<o:p></o:p></div>
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(My Process with Perfection)<o:p></o:p></div>
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<i>I will continue
in the next post with how I managed to change / transform my own worst enemy
creation in my process of change from perfection, into me becoming my own best
friend: assisting and supporting myself in my DECISION to CHANGE and actually
DOING it!<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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With realising that I, at the same time as wanting to
change my relationship with perfection, was preventing myself from changing: I
could see this vicious cycle continuing in real time moments during / after
making a mistake. My tendency towards perfectionism creeping up and creeping
back through subtle reactional movements within me accompanied by the sneaky
and manipulative dialogue that was coming up in the back of my mind. Herein, I
identified even more dimensions with regards to the extent to which perfectionism
existed within me. This is something you will discover in this process of
walking through yourself, your mind: you walk through so many layers and
dimensions within yourself as you realise how deep the ‘consciousness rabbit
hole’ goes when it comes to your own programming of personalities, thought-,
reaction- and behavioural-patterns. <o:p></o:p></div>
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With taking a step back, I realised what opened up
for me was simply another point I can understand and walk through when it comes
to my relationship with perfectionism and especially what I do to myself with
my own thoughts and emotions if I do not reach / attain an expected /
anticipatory level of perfection I demanded of myself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Therefore, what I would like everyone to take with
you is to remember that: in the process of self-change – when you’re IN THE
MOMENT of CHANGE, where the moment of opportunity to change is RIGHT HERE with
and within you – sometimes MORE dimensions / points to an initial problem will
open up, creating the experience of ‘preventing you from changing’. But, it’s
not so much a ‘prevention of change’ that is happening, as much as it is simply
more dimensions / points opening up for you to face, look at, understand and
walk through. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Like with me, I expected that the MOMENT of CHANGE
will happen as smoothly, naturally and immediately as I envisioned it within
myself the moment I understood the problem my relationship with perfection
created when it came to making mistakes. When faced with the reality of change…the
exact opposite happened lol. It was more that, as I started opening up this
problem, MORE of the PROBLEM opened up within and during my process of self
change in real time. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The two main dimensions, as I mentioned from the
previous post into this one, that contributed to creating me as my own worst
enemy was: 1. Noticing the ‘little voices’ in the back of my head in the
moments of opportunity for change and 2. Recycling within the exact same
pattern I am trying to change in moments of opportunity – just in a different /
new way. Therefore, to assist and support yourself within and during the
process and experience of change in real moments, when you’re so directly confronted
with an old pattern – to look at out for anything and everything else that
comes up within you that is keeping you from ACTUALLY CHANGING. That is keeping
you from sticking to your DECISION to CHANGE – to move through them, understand
it, let it go an FOCUS YOURSELF on you, the moment and the CHANGE. So that
nothing else matters in that moment but the outcome of your DECISIVE CHANGE. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I will in the next post continue with some practical
examples of how I from and through this experience of redefining and living my
change within and as the word perfection: moved from my own worst enemy to
becoming my own best friend, assisting and supporting myself in and as the
DECISION for CHANGE instead of victimizing myself within my own self created
problems. <o:p></o:p></div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-61457532080221311192016-07-18T08:37:00.000-07:002016-07-18T08:37:16.160-07:00Perfectionism: How I created my Own Worst Enemy <div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
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During my process of redefining and living the word
Perfection, I discovered this sneaky little manipulative voice coming at me in
moments of opportunity for change. This, a practical example of how we are, in
fact, our own worst enemies. The problem though, is that we don’t always see
and understand HOW EXACTLY we CREATE ourselves into our own worst enemy! <o:p></o:p></div>
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Interestingly enough, we oftentimes approach our
‘enemies’ with blame and tons of emotional attacking in our ourselves, our
minds. I found I was doing this with my own mind. When it came to me genuinely
WANTING to change my relationship with perfection, it felt as though - at the
same time as I was wanting to change - a part of me was doing everything and
anything possible to NOT change. A part of me was blaming and reacting to my
own programming of perfection, another part of me was ‘attacking’ myself while
trying to, in moments, change my relationship with perfection…so, this change
process was quite an internal rollercoaster ride! Let me explain HOW EXACTLY I
CREATED myself into my own worst enemy within and during my process of changing
my relationship and living as the word PERFECTION:<o:p></o:p></div>
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The first dimension I noticed was me blaming and
reacting to my own programming of perfection. Here, whenever I NOTICED and
RECOGNISED I was going into a pattern of perfection: I would judge myself,
become emotional – essentially accept and allow myself to go into a cycle of
victimization. This, an example of how we become enemies OF OURSELVES and why,
along with walking the redefining and living of the perfection, it was SO
IMPORTANT to me to equally walk the change FROM SELF JUDGMENT to ACCEPTANCE. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Most who have walked their process of understanding
how we create our own problems within our own minds within ourselves lol – have
noticed that: the MOMENT you KNOW EXACTLY HOW you created a certain thinking
and reacting pattern / personality: there’s this inherent tendency to judge
yourself / react to yourself when you see you accepted and allowed yourself to
go into it again. Which is REALLY BIZARRE when you look at it, because: you’d
‘naturally think / believe’ that – because you’re in the PROCESS OF CHANGE and
genuinely wanting to change, that all the doors will open up from there and
everything and everyone will support you in and during this process of
change…even your own Mind! But, does that happen?!?!?!?...NOPE! If
anything…when you START the process of CHANGE, that’s the moment the challenge
starts on so many levels within yourself. Because, even though a PART of you
WANTS to change – the MAJORITY of you AS THE PATTERN you have existed as, such
as perfection for example, that you have conditioned into every part of your
mind, being and body…will ‘fight for its right to exist’. YEARS of conditioning
RISING UP and ‘fighting change’. This in itself also opened up an interesting
process of WHY we make CHANGE and SELF CHANGE so DIFFICULT for ourselves?!?!?!?
This I will answer in posts to come! But, for now – let’s continue with the
process I have walked in this first dimension of why and how it is that I was
fighting and reacting to / blaming my own programming – creating me into my own
worst enemy instead of my own ‘best friend’ to assist and support me in this
DECISION to CHANGE my relationship and living within and as the word
perfection:<o:p></o:p></div>
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When I made my first mistake after redefining my
relationship with the word PERFECTION – I realised I was ADDING another
dimension / process to my experience. When I made my first mistake, I could see
how my tendency for perfectionism creeped back in, with this little voice in
the background of my mind saying: “why didn’t you do it better?” / “how could
you have done it so wrong?” / “I mean, really?!?!?!? Why are you even trying!!!”
/ “you’re just not good enough, stop, let it go, give it to someone else to try”.
Once the very familiar thoughts of judgment arrived after not attaining my
absolute perfection in a moment, I started judging myself for going into that
very pattern again lol. Then, the inner voice changed to: “why did you try
being perfect again?” / “you know you can’t be perfect” / “I thought I was
changing” / “I can’t be perfect, just accept it!” – but all these backchats
were done in the emotional experience of victimizing myself in noticing the
pattern, instead of SUPPORTING myself…<o:p></o:p></div>
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I will continue in the next post with how I managed
to change / transform my own worst enemy creation in my process of change from
perfection, into me becoming my own best friend: assisting and supporting
myself in my DECISION to CHANGE and actually DOING it!<o:p></o:p></div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-63863935012580952292016-07-03T04:51:00.000-07:002016-07-03T04:51:54.537-07:00The Perfection of a Moment<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: center;">
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<i>As mentioned in
the previous post, I from here starting writing out – daily, the most common
self judgments I accepted and allowed to entertain and participate in within my
Mind. From here, I started redefining the self judgments into self acceptance.
Together with this, I started a process of redefining self perfection more into
something real, something tangible that assisted and supported me in my process
through making mistakes and learning from them. This I will continue with in
posts to come.<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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When it comes to redefining yourself within words –
the key is to find an ‘anchor point’ within your everyday life that serves as
the initial platform within and as which you practise the redefined-living of
yourself within and as the word. For example, with me: I started changing the
living definition of myself when it came to the word ‘perfection’ in the context
of making mistakes. Once I became more comfortable and natural in living the
word perfection in this one context – I started expanding myself, my world in a
way of seeing where else, in what moments in my everyday life can I redefine
and live the word perfection. <o:p></o:p></div>
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But, initially – it assists and supports to start
with ONE POINT within yourself and your life to get a ‘feel’ for the process
involved with redefining yourself in and as a word. Once you get through the
anchor point – really visibly change in who you are in thought, word and deed
in a proven way for yourself and others: you will find that the next points /
dimensions in yourself / your life you’d like to change will be much easier,
because you have now developed that trust and knowing within yourself when it
comes to how to redefine and live yourself within and as a specific word. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Getting back to my anchor point, starting my process
of redefining myself within and as perfection, which started with my experience
in moments of making a mistake:<o:p></o:p></div>
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Within the experience and reflection of making a
mistake, I would during this process forgive the judgments and change them into
acceptance, gifting me the opportunity within myself to be able to take a step
back and look at what I need to refine, adjust, specify and re-align within
myself. To so be able to look at the mistake, learn from it, grow through it
and also become a living example of others to be able to effectively learn
through and from me based on my effectiveness of learning from and through the
mistake. Then, I would equally start living my redefinition of the word
perfection, which was: “To walk the process of writing, forgiveness and change
within awareness – with the specificity, detail and depth of self honesty and
awareness that is here as me in THAT MOMENT / point in time in my process.” <o:p></o:p></div>
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Essentially, perfection for me became something
personal and intimate in my process walking from consciousness to awareness.
This definition assisted and supported me in a way of not so easily / readily
accepting and allowing judgments or accepting and allowing the fear of not
being perfect, because I would remind myself that: I am me. I am here. I will
strive to in this moment, this experience – be as specific, detailed and
in-depth with myself as I am honestly, within my awareness able to. To assist
and support me and so others. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Therefore, perfection was not defined in relation to
others or anything external about myself – but rooted within WHO I AM able to
be, the POTENTIAL I am able to be in moments and experiences within myself and
my life.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In this, perfection then also became my personal challenge,
where: I wouldn’t only ‘just be specific, in-depth and detailed’ but PUSH
MYSELF to be as specific, in-depth and detailed as possible. Always REMEMBERING
and REMINDING myself I am in a CONSTANT, CONTINUOUS journey of LEARNING in this
lifetime within myself and my life. To ACCEPT mistakes EQUALLY as I would
accept MYSELF! Acceptance when it came to mistakes assisted and supported me to
drop this polarity of judgment and perfectionism, as well as the fear and
desire inner-conflict I existed in for much of my life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This again, the beauty of redefining words and so
redefining yourself. From perfection being both a fear and desire, catapulting me
into the consequences of self judgment: I transformed me and so the word
perfection for me in a way that assisted and supported me within my personal
process. Where the word and so my living experience of it became a support for
me, rather than my own self-destructive demise that I accepted and allowed. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I’ll continue more in posts to come<o:p></o:p></div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-1239740300809486822016-07-02T04:21:00.000-07:002016-07-02T04:21:35.340-07:00The PERFECT Judge<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">
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Connecting all the points I opened up and discussed
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On the surface, I was see-sawing between the desire
and fear of perfection (desire to be perfect, yet fear of not being perfect);
while being stuck in the middle as the inner-chaos that ensued because of it. With
the outflow consequence of self bullying, self criticism, judgments, not being
good enough - together with the emotions of fear, anxiety, stress, worry etc. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Upon introspection and investigating the deeper
dimensions: I came to see, realise and understand that what was within and
behind this ‘vague perfectionist image’ within my own mind was Judgment. The very
nature / essence of my perfectionism was based in judgment. <o:p></o:p></div>
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From here, let’s have a look at the dynamic between
self judgment, self acceptance and perfectionism when it comes to your personal
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With bringing all the dimensions, points and layers
together – I found, in my experience within myself that the perfectionism ‘replaced’
my self acceptance. So, with not understanding that self-judgment exists
because self acceptance does not exist, I in my mind programming / design
created this ‘vague perfectionist image’ of myself to try and balance the
extent of my own self judgment within myself, my mind. Essentially simulating an
‘image of myself in mind representing the illusion of acceptance’ / ‘my ideal
acceptance’ according to what I believed / perceived I should be or would be if
I were in my ideal / best state of acceptance. <o:p></o:p></div>
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To place it / describe it in other words: it’s like I
managed to collect / gather all the judgments of myself in one ball and then
into another ball I projected the ‘opposite of all of my judgments’ (which
became my vague self perfection image). <o:p></o:p></div>
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Here is the system / design of polarity I was stuck
in, because I didn’t then understand or know that the KEY to release myself
from self judgment was to WALK THROUGH self judgment and create myself into and
as SELF ACCEPTANCE. But, because I also did not know or understand that I have
the ability / capability to CHANGE who I am within and as self judgment: I
managed to create a polarized BALANCING SYSTEM between judgment and
perfectionism within myself to try and manage / deal with the extent of my
judgment within myself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This finally made me realise that the ‘problem’ was
never within and as the word ‘perfect’: it was an illusion. The real problem
was who I am within and as my relationship with the word JUDGMENT. With the
fact that I did not have any definition or understanding of SELF ACCEPTANCE and
that self acceptance cannot exist as long as judgment exists. Together with
this, I never actually really looked at defining perfection: my ‘vague
perfectionist image’ was made up of polarity opposites of all my self
judgments!!! <o:p></o:p></div>
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As mentioned in the previous post, I from here
starting writing out – daily, the most common self judgments I accepted and
allowed to entertain and participate in within my Mind. From here, I started
redefining the self judgments into self acceptance. Together with this, I
started a process of redefining self perfection more into something real,
something tangible that assisted and supported me in my process through making
mistakes and learning from them. This I will continue with in posts to come. <o:p></o:p></div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-10171411986937737402016-07-01T05:26:00.000-07:002016-07-01T05:26:04.711-07:00How Self Judgment supported my Journey to Self Acceptance<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;">
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A dimension of perfection I’d like to open up in this
post has to do with how I realised there was this ‘vague image’ of myself in my
mind. This image representing perfectionism – always doing, saying the right,
best things for myself and others. So, ANY moment I did not live up to my own
perfectionism – down comes the wrath of judgment, criticism, mental and
emotional self bullying. Spiralling me into a state of inferiority, being self
conscious, introverted, always second guessing and questioning myself.
Remaining in this constant state, while at the same time still doing my best to
attain this perfection I was striving for within myself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I do emphasize that this image within my Mind was
vague. Vague, in the sense that – I could never quite clearly ‘define’ what it
means to be ‘perfect’ in my own eyes, just that however and whoever I was, was
never good enough. It’s like I had created this ‘god’ in my mind – the ‘almighty
perfectionist’ and everything of who I was, how I lived in thought, word and
deed could not live up to this ‘almighty perfectionist’ in my mind. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, here I was in this constant, continuous
inner-conflict within myself: creating a simulated, vague projection of
perfectionism – while at the same time NEVER feeling like ANYTHING I was doing
within all that I am in thought, word and deed was living up to those
standards. As I mentioned, I always in some way found a way to find something
wrong, bad, not good enough within myself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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When I eventually managed to drop the veil of
perfectionism – I found that what was lying beyond it was pure SELF JUDGMENT. I
found a part of myself hiding behind perfectionism. A part of me sitting on a
chair in my own Mind ‘looking down at myself’ – magnifying all the problems,
issues and experiences I went through within myself, my mind and general life
experience. It’s as though saying to myself “I want things to be perfect”
sounds better than “I am seriously judgmental of myself, I am not good enough,
everything is always wrong and bad, I will never attain to becoming more than
who, how and what I am now”. So, I was HIDING a part of MYSELF within and
behind this apparent strive to be ‘perfect’: THE JUDGE. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Interestingly enough, buying into this simulation of
perfection inside my mind – proclaiming the façade of “I want to be perfect”: I
was EVERYTHING but that. In my VISIBLE LIVING I was the complete opposite of
perfection (according to my definition of self perfection back then):
introverted, suppressive, shy, self conscious, trying to fit in, inferiority
complexes by the many. Yet, I was so obsessed and possessed by this interplay
between myself and perfectionism: I deluded myself into believing that “I am on
my way to becoming perfect! I will become perfect one day!” Yet, existing in
pure inner conflict day in and day out – ‘cause no matter how hard I tried, I
never reached perfection, always the opposite. In a way, almost becoming
addicted to this relationship with myself that I had programmed / created for
YEARS: always striving to attain the unreachable, the vague, the undefined
perfectionist within myself by constantly and continuously bullying myself with
thoughts, emotions, criticism and judgment. Creating in this vicious cycle a
form of self-punishment for not living up to my own and other’s standards or
expectations. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This journey within and as the word Perfection –
starting with my own initial definition and experience of self perfection:
assisted and supported me in my process of learning what it means to drop SELF
JUDGMENT, live the word(s) SELF ACCEPTANCE. Once this process started: I
started the process of REDEFINING perfection, self perfection within myself
which also tied into my process of making mistakes, learning from them in a way
where I stand as an example for myself and others. I will continue with this in
posts to come. <o:p></o:p></div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-14624967501577223902016-06-26T04:27:00.000-07:002016-06-26T04:27:14.103-07:00The Dark Truth lurking within my Desire for Perfection<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;">
The Dark Truth lurking within my Desire for
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With walking a process redefining the word dependable
and so redefining who I am in thought, word and deed in relationship to it –
and this process changing me, my life and living experience: I was also
challenged with the word PERFECTION. <o:p></o:p></div>
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As I mentioned before - this is one of the dimensions
in the process of redefining and living words I thoroughly enjoy, but at the
same time experience to be quite challenging: as you walk a process of
redefining and living ONE WORD, MORE WORDS and so parts of yourself become
exposed requiring some well needed redefinition. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I started my initial redefining and living process of
the word(s) self-dependable on who I am when making mistakes: to instead of
judging, criticizing and beating myself down with my own thoughts and emotions,
assist and support myself to ‘humbly and gracefully embrace the fall, the
mistake’, stand up within it and learn from it in a way that will not only
support me, my life – but others as well. That my learning process through and
from mistakes can guide others in their lives in a way where they can apply the
principle of prevention and learn from me, my mistakes so as to not make the
same unnecessary mistakes in their lifetimes. In so doing, many individuals can
then rather focus on immediate growth, learning and expansion. We oftentimes
think we need to ‘learn from our own mistakes, make all the same mistakes’ –
when you can learn just as well by walking in the shoes of another’s story,
their mistakes, what they learned from it and take the insights, realisations
and perspectives into yourself and your own life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Within this journey of redefining self-dependable
when it came to my experiences and moments of making mistakes – I noticed this
element of the ‘desire for perfection’ coming through strongly, contributing
much to what caused my initial self-criticism, self-judgment and beating myself
up with my own thoughts and emotions. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I didn’t realise the extent to which this ‘desire for
perfection’ was existent within the depths of my mind and affecting the very
nature and experience of my thoughts, words and deeds until I slowly but surely
started the process of ‘peeling through the layers’ of my mind, my
consciousness when it came to how I programmed myself within and as the word ‘perfection’.
It was so extensive, that – whenever it came to relationships, any type / form
of relationship like my relationship with myself, my family, friends, potential
partners, acquaintances, work colleagues: in any given moment I’d walk into a
moment with them wanting the moment, experience and relationship with them to
be PERFECT in all ways. I was always ADFRAID of doing something wrong, saying
something wrong, not doing / saying something in the ‘right way’, not PLEASING
enough, not being good enough, not striving for enough within the given
relationship, not looking good / perfect enough…and the list goes on. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This is something about this process that’s been
intriguing and eye-opening in many ways: as you explore the depths of your
mind, your consciousness and into the programming of yourself within words –
such as the word PERFECTION – you come to understand yourself, who and how you
are in thought, word and deed SO MUCH BETTER in a way where you can really,
genuinely change. For me, I initially believed that I was just someone who was
very judgmental, hard on myself. I initially believed I was someone who was
always afraid of making mistakes, doing the wrong things, not being good enough
in my own and other’s eyes and so living in a constant polarity of ‘desire for
perfection’ and ‘fear of not attaining and living up to that perfection’. I
believed and lived all of this, until I started exploring my own programming
within and as word PERFECTION - where I came to see, realise and understand
that: the SOURCE of my criticism, judgment and being hard on myself, the SOURCE
of my FEARS when it came to my relationship with myself and others: all
originated from my misaligned definition and so living of the word PERFECTION. <o:p></o:p></div>
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In the next post I will continue sharing the very
long journey I walked with correcting my relationship with perfection that I
started walking simultaneously with redefining the word(s) self-dependable in
the context of making mistakes. Together with this, how exactly I realised the
severity of this perfection relationship I created with myself and others in my
MIND, what a shock it was to me to see the extent to which I lived in almost
CONSTANT FEAR AND ANXIETY because of it. From here, how my relationship and
living of myself in thought, word and deed changed with redefining the word
perfection and so redefining myself – setting myself free from constant fear
and anxiety by ending the POLARITY between FEAR and DESIRE of PERFECTION. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Dependable: Bad ending for Fantasy = Happy ending for
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I will in the
next post continue with sharing how, when and where this idea of myself was
challenged when it met with reality. How self honesty supported me to realise
this. Finally, how to assist and support yourself to prevent yourself from
creating IDEAS about yourself when it comes to redefining and living words, but
always keep the door of opportunity for learning, expansion and growth open.</i></div>
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We are often so caught up in our imaginations and
fantasies, so much so that: when our fantasies ‘come back to earth’ and meet
with reality – we, in the moment when it happens, feel as though ourselves and
our world is falling apart. Yet, with time – we, with the (often challenging)
support of reality, equally release ourselves from the fantasy and become, once
again, anchored into the physical, what’s real, what’s here. </div>
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This is to a degree what happened with me when the
idea I created of myself in my mind of being ‘dependable’ was challenged by
reality. My definition of fantasy, here, is with regards to the fantastical,
the illusion, the imaginary that we so easily create within our Minds. Come to
think of it, an interesting point emerges in this moment: how we seem to be so
apt when it comes to creating the fantastical, the imaginary, the illusion in
our Minds…yet, when it comes to creating something REAL, something SUBSTANTIAL,
something long lasting IN THIS WORLD, IN THIS REALITY – it seems impossible? I’ll
expand more on this in posts to come.</div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">(This is the
process we’re walking with <a href="http://schoolofultimateliving.com/">SOUL: LIVING WORDS</a>. This process assists and
supports with showing you how to create yourself, your life, your
relationships, your future through redefining and living words. Aligning your
being / awareness to LIVE and CREATE more IN THIS WORLD, IN THIS REALITY than
the Mind / Consciousness.)</i></div>
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Yes, I did manage to LIVE the word DEPENDABLE and
transform my relationship with myself in relation to mistakes and my working
environment. Yet, equally so – I managed to create an IDEA, an ILLUSION of
myself in my relationship to living the word dependable. It wasn’t a good or
bad thing: purely a learning curve for which I am grateful. Because, once again
– I made a mistake and made it in a way where I can now share this process with
each one reading. In so doing, you learn through me in a way where you don’t
have to make the same mistakes, but can from the get go consider to: when
redefining and living words – walk the process from the get-go where you ensure
that your redefinition process is continuous, always leaving room for expansion
and not limit your redefinition / living process by creating ABSOLUTES and
through that an IDEA of yourself. Because, guaranteed: Reality will meet
fantasy and you’ll be brought down back to earth in quite the unpleasant way /
experience lol especially when you believed in / lived your idea / illusionary
self definition so absolutely lol</div>
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So, to take with you from the process I walked – and I
will in the next post continue with explaining / expanding on the creation of
ideas, the illusionary self-definitions – is to, whenever you redefine a word,
in fine print have within your redefinition process the words:</div>
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“I see, realise and understand that I am
redefining and living this word within the context of myself, my life and my
relationships right now. I see, realise and understand that I may change, my
life may change and my relationships may change. In this unpredictable
nature/context of life itself – I hereby take into account that as I may change
with everything in my life changing – so will who I am in and as the words I’m
redefining and living change. Change can come with realisation or challenges
that everyday life brings me. But, I hereby commit to assist and support me, to
– either with realisation change or challenge change, always keep my redefining
and living of words OPEN, to learn, to grow, to expand within myself and my
everyday life experiences. In so doing, not limiting myself to absolutes and
ideas – but assist and support myself to reach my utmost potential through
constant / continuous growth, expansion and development.”</div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-78906854189959535522016-05-02T04:30:00.000-07:002016-05-02T04:30:50.319-07:00Once upon a time, there was an Idea that met with Reality…<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<b>Once upon a time, there was an Idea that met with
Reality…</b></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In the next
post I will share more tangible, practical examples expanding on making a
definition of a word too ABSOLUTE and not allowing yourself to be FLEXIBLE
within redefining and living words. Also, what can happen when you try and be
TOO PERFECT within living a redefined word and how you can create positive and
negative polarities within yourself, relationships and life in general – which
can contribute to the experience of ‘falling, standing up, falling’ – instead
of more looking at such a process as a process of learning, reflecting and
changing.</i></div>
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Continuing with my process with the word dependable:
in this post I’m going to share how I discovered that an IDEA I created about
myself in my Mind – interfered with my process of expanding myself and my
relationship/living within the word dependable. How this ‘idea’ contributed to
making my definition and living of myself ‘too absolute’ / ‘polarised’; to the
extent where I blamed myself for having done something wrong / not being good
enough (other times even blamed other people for my ‘falling’ in the living of
the word dependable). Instead of realising that: there was nothing ‘wrong’ / ‘I
nor anyone was to blame’ / ‘I didn’t fall’. All the while it was an IDEA
running in the background of my mind simply interfering with me seeing,
realising and understanding that all I needed to do was to change, move, expand
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Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself is one of the
dimensions that interferes with allowing you to be more ‘flexible’ in your self
definition that emerge once you redefined yourself through redefining and
living a word. Creating an ‘idea’ about yourself shifts MOST of you into this
ONE / few idea(s) and so can lose touch with the truth of you and the reality
of the unpredictable / unexpected nature of everyday life. I realised that it
was an IDEA about myself that was in fact challenging my definition,
redefinition and living of the word dependable / self dependable when it came
to my process regarding mistakes and also my process in my relationship with
other people. This idea ‘trapped me’ to not be able to EXPAND myself, my
redefinition and living of the word dependable; because when the IDEA of myself
was challenged – I went into blaming myself / being hard on myself; thinking I
WAS THE PROBLEM lol Yes, to a certain extent “I” was the problem, but not ALL
of me – only a part of me that became defined into / as this idea. Let me
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From the previous posts I shared how I initially
started my redefinition of the word dependable when it came to changing my
relationship to mistakes and then in my working environment with specific people.
This during a time where my life was pretty much the same / consistent day in
and day out. Not very much exposed to different people / environments. So, with
living the redefinition of the word dependable ONLY with here and there
everyday life mistakes and becoming dependable in my work environment, my
relationship with others: this is where I started creating this IDEA about
myself to the extent of “I can make and face ANY mistake and I’ll handle it
like a pro!” / “I am SO good in my dependable work relationships / relationship
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This is what I mean with ‘creating an IDEA’ about
yourself. Yes, I may have transcended my relationship to mistakes, to my
working environment and people within it: but by no means can I state that I
can stand before ANY and EVERY mistake, ANY and EVERY person and be a ‘pro’
when it comes to being dependable. I’d only started my process. I was only a
beginner. So, when this idea of myself met with REALITY – where my environment
and relationship with people / beings changed: lol was this idea of myself
challenged!!! I am eternally grateful for this challenge reality brought, well –
the gratefulness only came after learning from it of course, the challenge
itself was rather difficult! </div>
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I will in the next post continue with sharing how,
when and where this idea of myself was challenged when it met with reality. How
self honesty supported me to realise this. Finally, how to assist and support
yourself to prevent yourself from creating IDEAS about yourself when it comes
to redefining and living words, but always keep the door of opportunity for
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<i>I will continue more
with this in the next post to come – also expanding on the consequential role
that perfection played within it all, even though I have redefined and lived
the word dependable. This is also something that you will find in the process of
redefining and living words: you may sometimes find yourself in other
situations, environments and people that throws the living of your words ‘off
course for a moment and other old patterns can creep back in’. Meaning, I may
in ONE environment with SPECIFIC people walked the process of redefining and
living the word dependable, but when I was faced with something different – it
challenged my redefinition / living of the words in a way where I needed to
EXPAND on it. So, redefining and living words is a constant, continuous process
of self expansion through LIVING!<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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In my working environment in my early twenties, I learned
BALANCE through considering me, my relationship with others, my time and my
responsibilities / obligations – accordingly prioritising myself, everything
and everyone in a functional, practical way; leading to becoming the living
words dependable, hardworking, reliable as well as doing the best for me and
everyone else. This including my general life process when it came to making
mistakes, being able to learn from them and change myself through them –
sharing this process and being a supportive living example for others. <o:p></o:p></div>
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However…lol, what happened within my mind was imbuing my process
of learning from mistakes and changing myself from and through them as well as
being dependable within the working environment and people in it, with none
other than PERFECTION. In other words, as I walked through one layer of
perfection when it came to ‘never wanting to make mistakes in the first place’
- it morphed / opened up into ALWAYS learning from my mistakes IMMEDIATELY, as
fast as possible as best as possible and if I didn’t…but still made similar /
same mistakes or the change process taking longer than I wanted it to or
expected from myself: back creeped in the nature of ‘perfection’, just in
another, different way. Or if, in the working environment, I didn’t BALANCE
myself, my relationship with others, time and obligations / responsibilities
properly – in came the ‘perfection’ dimension in relation to not balancing ‘perfectly’
/ ‘good enough’ through my own eyes. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, it’s been interesting to observe the CHALLENGES I have
faced within myself in this process that opened up through the word DEPENDABLE
and how my process, relationship and living with the word perfection seriously
made my experience and change within the word dependable so the more difficult.
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This then lead me to start walking my process within and
through the word PERFECTION and investigating how this DOMINANT word within and
as me has been influencing my process in many different ways. Especially also
in another dimension where I recognised this word was coming through which was
when it came to creating the IDEA that ‘I am officially self dependable in my
trust to walk through and learn from ALL mistakes’…until ‘life happens’ and
brings you circumstances, situations and moments with yourself and other people
that truly brings such IDEAS in the MIND back to REALITY. Throughout my
experiences, I eventually realised I made my definition of dependable DEPENDENT
again on ‘making it through mistakes and being a supportive example from me for
others’, essentially here LIMITING my definition of dependable, because I did
not allow myself to be FLEXIBLE within who I am as dependable when it comes to
my own self honesty and self trust. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, when my life changed from my working environment and so
the nature of my exposure to life and I started making ‘new types of mistakes’
within myself and my life, mistakes I was never exposed to before: I FELL. I
went back into isolation, suppression, judgment, being hard on myself – I PERFECTLY
FELL lol and this time into the OPPOSITE POLARITY where I didn’t balance
myself, my relationships my time and obligations / responsibilities at all but
kept my participation in myself and life to the bare minimum. I eventually
managed to stand up from this process – but challenging it was indeed. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, to take with you for today in your process of walking
defining, redefining and living words is: Never to make an ABSOLUTE definition
/ process of a word, such as the mistake I made where I made my definition of
DEPENDABLE absolute when it came to mistakes and who I am within and as
mistakes. Eventually I learned the following and expanded my self definition of
dependable in a way where: I know that, whatever the mistake, no matter how
tough, I will possibly even make mistakes WITHIN a mistake lol – but one thing
I have proven to myself, dropping all the judgments, being hard on myself etc.
is that: I well get through it, stand up from it. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, my dependable-trust relationship then transformed into
and as the HEART of me which is: I AM HERE, I trust me that with my self honesty
as I walk through and process myself within and as a mistake that I will get
through it, learn from, stand up and change – no matter how long it takes, I AM
HERE and I am walking. This is the final statement I have proven to myself
since then - and the definition that has supported me throughout all this time
up until now, I could expand this also into any and every challenges I face within
myself, my life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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In the next post I will share more tangible, practical
examples expanding on making a definition of a word too ABSOLUTE and not
allowing yourself to be FLEXIBLE within redefining and living words. Also, what
can happen when you try and be TOO PERFECT within living a redefined word and
how you can create positive and negative polarities within yourself,
relationships and life in general – which can contribute to the experience of ‘falling,
standing up, falling’ – instead of more looking at such a process as a process
of learning, reflecting and changing. <o:p></o:p></div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-49299572522533772402016-04-23T09:38:00.000-07:002016-04-23T09:38:51.778-07:00Dependable: As Within = So Without<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: center;">
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<i>I realised
through revisiting my definition and living of the word ‘dependable’, once I
walked through the process of not judging / being hard and tough on myself when
making mistakes, instead learning from mistakes and practising what I learned
into living action to in fact change from within what I have learned: I started
sharing, showing more of myself, my process, my mistakes, my ups and downs in a
way that assisted and supported so many others. Eventually – over time,
solidifying the living of the word dependable as “being a supportive example”
rather than ‘absolutely perfect’. But, it was quite the journey to first and
foremost live dependable for me, me showing my dependability to myself in being
able to stop judging / being so hard on myself and to take that step into
actually learning from mistakes and correcting / changing from what I learned.<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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One of the important things I realised in my process
of understanding what it really means to redefine and live words in a way where
it becomes a natural part of the way you look at things inside yourself, speak
and act / behave is: noticing the stark difference between when a word is a
PART of every fibre of your being / presence and natural living as opposed to
when you are ‘trying to be a word for everyone else’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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As with the example I have walked: Over some time,
focusing developing the redefining and living of the word dependable - so much
more opened up in many other areas in my life when it came to how, when, where,
why and towards whom this word was still not being lived. This is also
something you will find with the process of redefining and living words: yes,
you may initially start with ONE redefinition and living context, as with me,
where it started within the context of becoming a supportive living example for
others. But, from there – my redefinition and living of this word expanded so
much more into others areas and relationships in my life, some of the
redefinition and living of this word still challenging me to this day. It’s
been extraordinary to observe how much I have learned, and still do learn,
about myself from ONE WORD. Over time, you become so much more skilled and
equipped with self awareness and processing information that you can redefine
and live words exceptionally fast. Initially though, it’s a slow but sure
process – because it’s something you’ve never done before or been exposed to
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As with my previous post, I truly became a ‘perfect
beginner’ through my process of redefining and living the word ‘dependable’, assisting
and supporting myself to actually first and foremost prove dependability to
myself and how it completely transformed my relationship to me, my process and
so others as well. Where, the more I became dependable in my self trust -
stopping judging / being hard on myself for my mistakes, walking a process of
writing, forgiveness and corrective living; then ONCE I CHANGED a mistake and
first and foremost proven it to myself: sharing it with others – in this, my whole
world of communication with other people changed, I stopped isolating myself, I
stopped suppressing. Here bringing through the heading of this blog “Dependable:
As within = So without”. As I changed ME LIVING this word DEPENDABLE WITHIN
MYSELF = it started manifesting in the WITHOUT of myself, seen through my
relationship to the process I walked with transforming mistakes and my process
/ relationship with so many other people. If I did not walk the process of
redefining dependable for me within myself and actually LIVED this redefinition
= the WITHOUT of myself in my process through life’s mistakes and so my
relationship with other people would not have changed. This is an example of
one of the self empowering dimensions when it comes to understanding this
statement. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Another example, much of it still challenging me in
different ways to this day – in which the word ‘perfection’ also played and
still does plays a role is the following: (going back in time – my early
twenties – when this process of the word dependable / perfection opened up) I
initially rushed and raced after everything and everyone else at the same time,
this though also part of a ‘wanting to please and make everyone happy’
character I was walking at the time. My experience within the word ‘dependable’
also played a major role within this process, because I wanted to please, be
seen as dependable, hardworking, valued etc. Yes, nothing wrong with having
such aspirations – BUT – the problem does come in when none of those words are
a natural part of you, yourself in your personal relationship with you. Eventually,
I was under so much stress, time-consumed with trying to do everything and
anything at once, while hoarding more responsibilities than I could handle to
keep everyone else happy – I burnt out, ‘cause I had NO balance in equally
considering me as much as obligations / responsibilities and rather incorporating
more effective time management / prioritizing. On top of that…I couldn’t make
everyone happy, no matter how hard I tried, leading to the ratio eventually
escalating to the point where more people were disappointed / fed up with me
than happy. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, during this time, with the words “dependable,
hardworking, valued, aspiring to have the best relationships with other people”
not having been redefined nor lived for me first and foremost in my
relationship with me – I was TRYING to gain access to, become or experience
those words THROUGH OTHERS in any and every way I could. Here as well you will clearly
see the difference between a word being a part of you and ‘trying to be a word
for everyone else or GET it from somewhere / someone else’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, my journey started where I redefined the words
dependable, hardworking, valued, best relationships with everyone in a way THAT
INCLUDED ME and a BALANCE in considering me, my obligations and my
relationships with others. Through this, I eventually still did everything I
did before, but with much more stability, time consideration, scheduling, prioritising
and in this process – actually from my within, created the REAL definition and
living of the above words in my working environment. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I will continue more with this in the next post to
come – also expanding on the consequential role that perfection played within
it all, even though I have redefined and lived the word dependable. This is
also something that you will find in the process of redefining and living
words: you may sometimes find yourself in other situations, environments and
people that throws the living of your words ‘off course for a moment and other
old patterns can creep back in’. Meaning, I may in ONE environment with
SPECIFIC people walked the process of redefining and living the word
dependable, but when I was faced with something different – it challenged my
redefinition / living of the words in a way where I needed to EXPAND on it. So,
redefining and living words is a constant, continuous process of self expansion
through LIVING! <o:p></o:p></div>
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<i>For so many others,
when you have so much responsibility, such a massive purpose – does
dependability mean “you have to be perfect all the time?” Does dependability
mean “perfection” OR…does it mean “being a SUPPORTIVE EXAMPLE?” What is the
difference between “perfection” and “being a supportive example?” To me, being
a supportive example is: when and as you go through processes and experiences,
make mistakes – that you LEARN and SHARE and SHOW as a supportive example for
others to equally LEARN FROM YOU as YOU LEARNED FROM YOUR MISTAKES. ‘Cause I
initially defined ‘dependability’ within ‘my purpose / responsibility’ as “I
have to be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT!”. This was a mistake…<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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With walking the process of redefining and living words, you
in time come across such moments where you look back, look into yourself and
look at your relationship with a word - realising there are ‘misalignments’.
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I, with full force, lived the word ‘dependable’ – along with
my definition of it: being ‘absolutely perfect’ in the sense of NEVER making
mistakes, NEVER falling / faltering / wavering inside myself – when it came to
my personal process and experiences, especially in the beginning when I started
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Whenever I did make mistakes, fall, falter, waver inside
myself or within a particular process: I would be ever so hard on myself, come
down on myself really hard. I’d eventually work with and through the
miss-takes, deal with them, get over them; but then push myself to strive for
that perfection EVEN MORE. I realised with looking back that: my process wasn’t
so much about learning from my mistakes and sharing it with others in a way of
being a dependable example within the process of learning and changing (which
is the main foundation / principle of self change: reflecting on mistakes,
learning from them and then actually changing) – but I was more judging/being
hard on myself, really tough on myself, then trying to fix / change the mistake
as best and fast as possible and using that as ‘fuel’ to strive for perfection
even more, to do everything and anything possible to NOT make mistakes. <o:p></o:p></div>
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My process became more about striving for perfection than
assisting and supporting me and so equally others. Assisting and supporting me
and others in a way of: when making a mistake, learning and changing in a way
of supporting me to not make the same mistake again and placing in the needed
measures, methods and self support as what I learned from the past mistake. All
in all living the principle of prevention – learning from mistakes to not
unnecessarily re-cycle in and as the same mistakes but source from them as much
as possible for me to learn about myself, grow and expand. Then from here, from
my process and experience of mistakes, sharing and showing others so that
others can equally be assisted and supported with how to deal with / walk
through / transcend and process through mistakes in a way where they actually
learn, grow, expand and so change in a supportive way for themselves. The above,
essentially explaining the redefinition of the word ‘dependable’ I came to live
in time as “being a supportive example for me and so for others”. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Getting back to my ‘strive for perfection’: I have truly, because
of this, lived the words “you are your own greatest judge” and “your mind is
your own worst enemy” with having a look back at how hard I was on myself, the
extent to which I judged and ‘punished’ myself through my own thoughts and
emotions whenever I perceived and experienced myself to ‘not be absolutely
perfect’. Interestingly enough though – within this strive for perfection
WITHIN myself it lead to much consequence in my actual living, where: I would
resist spending time with people, rather isolate myself in a quiet space within
me and my surroundings to not have to expose myself to possibilities or
potentials for making mistakes. Also in this outflow consequence – not living
the real word ‘dependable’ from the perspective of being a dependable living
leading example for others. <o:p></o:p></div>
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There is so much more to be opened up when it comes to what
I lived and experienced within and as the word ‘Perfection’ and I will continue
with this sharing in blogs to come. To take with you for today: I realised
through revisiting my definition and living of the word ‘dependable’, once I
walked through the process of not judging / being hard and tough on myself when
making mistakes, instead learning from mistakes and practising what I learned
into living action to in fact change from within what I have learned: I started
sharing, showing more of myself, my process, my mistakes, my ups and downs in a
way that assisted and supported so many others. Eventually – over time,
solidifying the living of the word dependable as “being a supportive example”
rather than ‘absolutely perfect’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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But, it was quite the journey to first and foremost live
dependable for me, me showing my dependability to myself in being able to stop
judging / being so hard on myself and to take that step into actually learning
from mistakes and correcting / changing from what I learned. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<i>“What would it mean to
enable myself, the living pen as the process of living the word dependable?”
“What would it practically mean for me, my relationship with who I am in
thought, word and deed to live the word ‘dependable’ and what role does purpose
play within this all?”<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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In this post, I am continuing with the above questions as
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<i>To those who love
writing / drawing / painting: the best moment is when you have that blank page
before you and you have the DECISION to EXPRESS the UTMOST of yourself from the
moment you start writing / drawing / painting. This is exactly the same for the
MOMENTS we have in everyday life when we have a DECISION before us the moment
we recognise the fact that our thoughts and inner experiences are not
reflecting our potential: to make the decision to CHANGE, to LIVE in thought
word and deed the WORD you’re going to WRITE / LIVE in THAT MOMENT.<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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Here is my beginning with living the word ‘dependable’ in my
first and foremost relationship: my relationship with ME – who I am in thought,
word and deed. Together with incorporating the word purpose: how I placed my
SELF (through what I have as my ability to look, speak, act and within that
DECIDE) – to PURPOSE. I essentially merged the words ‘dependable’ and ‘purpose’
within myself in a way where, living the word ‘dependable’ supported the word ‘purpose’
as much as the word ‘purpose’ supported the word ‘dependable’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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This is what is so exciting and liberating when it comes to
the process of <a href="http://www.schoolofultimateliving.com/">redefining and living words</a>: How you change and so CREATE
yourself through redefining and living individual words, but also reach a phase
where you start having a look at uniting / connecting words; such as the words
dependable and purpose in a way that supports you in your relationship with
yourself, your mind, your relationships and everyday life experiences! <o:p></o:p></div>
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An example: Redefining the word ‘dependable’ for me was to
look into both words, ‘dependable’ and ‘purpose’. With having a look at these
two words in the beginning of my process when I started <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/the-story-of-sunette">Portalling</a> and my
responsibility when it came to Portalling: my definition of ‘purpose’ was my
relationship to bringing through the beings, to Portal, to share as much
knowledge and information that could be placed into living practise /
application to show people the process through the Mind into their Utmost
Potential as <a href="http://desteniiprocess.com/">living Self Awareness</a>. Dependability then within that was my personal
process WITHIN myself – being the living / leading example, by being more aware
of who I am in thought, word and deed – placing a GUARD infront of my MIND, my
MOUTH and my LIVING ACTIONS. A GUARD as ME as the MOMENT I GIFT to myself
through self forGIFTness to take a BREATH, take a STEP BACK and assess in
MOMENTS “who I am” and whether what is moving / manifesting within me is what I
want to speak / live or whether I am going to DIRECT and MOVE myself into and
as a different expression. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, here you can see how my ‘self dependability’ as
depending on me to be a living / leading example of the purpose I walk and
committed to within and as Portalling and the knowledge and information as
process the beings are sharing through me – how these two words compliment and
support one another in my life, my self and my responsibility towards me and
Portalling. <o:p></o:p></div>
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However…I have through time, within the definitions and
living of the words ‘purpose’ and ‘dependable’ found that there were some ‘misalignments’
in my initial self definition of the word ‘dependable’. I was satisfied with
how I lived the word ‘purpose’ when it came to my responsibility and commitment
(as well as MUCH ENJOYMENT!!!) to Portalling. However…I realised I still
personally in this world and the hereafter walked my personal processes and
experiences through my own mind, being and body relationship - in such a way
where I didn’t always ‘feel’ or ‘see’ myself as ‘dependable’ in my personal
process and so as an example for so many others. Until I realised: there was a
part of me that defined the word ‘dependable’ in “being dependable FOR
EVERYONE, FOR THE PORTAL, FOR PROCESS” and so, whenever I made a mistake, or
went through a process – I would be VERY hard on myself…and unnecessarily so. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Here again, leading me to asking myself: With having the
PURPOSE I do have. The responsibility I have within and as this purpose that is
me, that is my life…how can I start redefining and living the word ‘dependable’
for ME first and foremost and from here SHARE and EXPRESS and be a living
example of this word for so many others who can, in turn, empower themselves by
redefining and living this word? <o:p></o:p></div>
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For so many others, when you have so much responsibility,
such a massive purpose – does dependability mean “you have to be perfect all the
time?” Does dependability mean “perfection” OR…does it mean “being a SUPPORTIVE
EXAMPLE?” What is the difference between “perfection” and “being a supportive
example?” To me, being a supportive example is: when and as you go through
processes and experiences, make mistakes – that you LEARN and SHARE and SHOW as
a supportive example for others to equally LEARN FROM YOU as YOU LEARNED FROM
YOUR MISTAKES. ‘Cause I initially defined ‘dependability’ within ‘my purpose /
responsibility’ as “I have to be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT!”. This was a mistake…<o:p></o:p></div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-56281718789505867832016-04-10T05:13:00.000-07:002016-04-10T05:13:30.076-07:00Dependable: Enabling my self, my purpose<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
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“What would it mean to enable myself, the living pen as the
process of living the word dependable?” “What would it practically mean for me,
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‘dependable’ and what role does purpose play within this all?”<o:p></o:p></div>
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I have looked at my relationship to thinking, speaking and
acting. These three foundations serve as a ‘platform’ within and as which I
stand, gifting me with the ability to respond to myself, others and my
environment. However, what I have not done (in the beginning, before my process
started) is analyse, asses or question ‘who I am’ when it comes to thought,
word and deed and my response-ability within moments when I am exposed to my
own thoughts, own words and own deeds. Whereby, I was a ‘living pen’ - not
writing, through living - me, my relationships and my life with awareness. I
was not CREATING. I have been a ‘living pen’ with purpose always existent
within and as me if only I ENABLED my awareness and my relationship within who
I am in thought, word and deed. It’s like, I was just ‘waiting’ to utilise everything
I have within me, available within me to bring myself to purpose, to create the
utmost potential of who and how I can be and live through my thoughts, words
and deeds. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Making this realisation / understanding more practical /
tangible: Throughout my process, I transformed my relationship to thoughts in a
way of not blindly following them anymore, but first taking a breath and a step
back and asking if the nature of my thoughts / experiences emerging within me
is the awareness, self and potential I want to live / be / embody in any given
moment? From where I would then decide to live a WORD with awareness and embody
that word into a living expression of me, that will so transform my words and behaviour
and in so doing, transform my relationship with others and my general life
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I found that my thoughts / inner experiences defined my
words and behaviour and so created my relationships, defined my decisions and
choices and filtered out into the experience of my life. Once I started
redefining my relationship to who I am in thoughts, words and deeds, I started
my process of setting me to PURPOSE, ENABLING thus myself in being able to
CREATE ME through changing my relationship with thoughts, words and deeds with
awareness. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, exactly as you would take a pen and start writing /
drawing – your hand the directive principle, your self writing / drawing with
AWARENESS: you bring your SELF into creation. Same with our thoughts, words and
deeds: we, with our SELF AWARENESS need to utilise our thoughts, words and
deeds by DIRECTING ourselves within and as them into a CREATION, a STORY worth
living. <o:p></o:p></div>
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To those who love writing / drawing / painting: the best
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This is exactly the same for the MOMENTS we have in everyday
life when we have a DECISION before us the moment we recognise the fact that
our thoughts and inner experiences are not reflecting our potential: to make
the decision to CHANGE, to LIVE in thought word and deed the WORD you’re going
to WRITE / LIVE in THAT MOMENT. <o:p></o:p></div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-25529171796772807432016-04-08T10:03:00.000-07:002016-04-08T10:03:18.005-07:00Dependable <div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
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I played with the sounding of the word Dependable and the
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is a way of redefining your relationship to the word and so the relationship
with yourself. It’s a method used to see what you can learn from a word,
through a word and so learn about yourself. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The words ‘The Pen Able’ stood out for me. From there, it
opened up into ‘Enabling the Pen’. Once you enable a pen, a working pen – it is
and becomes an dependable source used to assist and support you to write, to
create, to express, to share, to communicate. We enable the pen, its ‘purpose’
by taking it in our hands and starting writing / drawing. We oftentimes think /
believe a pen has no purpose until we use it. However, the pen’s very EXISTENCE
is its purpose in the sense of BEING ABLE to write / draw. We SHARE and
EXPERIENCE the pen’s purpose the moment we write with it / draw with it – the moment
we make the pen A PART of OUR MOMENT, our world, our expression, our
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From here I looked at the relationship between dependability
and purpose. Looking at the question “who I am when it comes to the word
dependable and living / making this word a part of me and my everyday life?” Interestingly
enough, what first came up within me was everyone else in my life - wanting to
be dependable for others. However, I realised this does not answer the above
question. I must look at what being dependable means for ME first and foremost.
How can I learn to understand what this word means for me in who I am when it
comes to my relationship with me. Because, if I cannot live this word in my
relationship with me – then living ‘dependable’ FOR OTHERS is going to be
existent within the dimension of separation. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Looking at myself, I realised through my thoughts, words and
deeds in moments in everyday life – I am a Pen. I write / draw as to create /
express / communicate / behave etc. who I am as well as the story / painting of
my life from one day to the next and into the future. Here, I drew an analogy
between myself as a living being and the pen – both writing / drawing, bringing
something new into creation / manifestation. From here, drawing the lines
through when it comes to dependability and purpose – asking myself the questions:
“What would it mean to enable myself, the living pen as the process of living
the word dependable?” Then, “what would it practically mean for me, my
relationship with who I am in thought, word and deed to live the word ‘dependable’
and what role does purpose play within this all?”<o:p></o:p></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">I will in the next post share how I
am and have been dealing with / directing this ‘fighting’ that I’ve become
aware of within me – sharing the nature and design of it within the mind /
consciousness and how to support yourself to release your being from such a
state of living and experience. More importantly: why it is pivotal to change
this nature within yourself to be able to support others to change as well – so
that we stop creating and living in a world defined by ‘fighting to live’ and
start creating and living in a world defined by reason and purpose and LIVE,
for self and all of existence as well. <o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
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will, through walking Self Forgiveness, share insights and realisations I’ve
had regarding this ‘fighting nature’ and the extent of it; but more
importantly: how I have become aware of the manifested consequence this ‘fighting
experience’ creates in your relationship with yourself and everything /
everyone else in your life. Where, we’ve become so used to this ‘constant
fighting’ with others, within ourselves and with life itself - that we barely
recognise / see it. Yet, the consequence
of it comes through / reveals itself in various ways which you may also be able
to relate to as I continue through the Self Forgiveness journey:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">I
forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, in my life – be so
focused on my limited definition of the words ‘fighting’ and ‘to fight’ that I
always only focused on working through memories / moments of fighting when it
came to arguments with people in my life and/or only focusing on fighting as it
exists on a global scale when it comes to wars / violence etc. Not allowing
myself to take a breath and take a step back when it comes to my personal
responsibility of my relationship with me, my own mind and asking myself: “but
wait, where EXACTLY are these moments of fighting with myself, with others in
the secret of my Mind and/or in real time moments in reality actually coming
from?” Why have I not seen / realised that the moments of fighting in the
secrets of my mind and/or in real time moments with others are but an outflow
consequence of a nature / a part of me coming through that I am accepting and
allowing to come into creation when it manifests as fighting in my mind and so
also in my relationships with others in my life?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">I
forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and
understand that I have always only ever been working with the ‘symptoms’ / ‘outflow
consequence’ as ‘manifested consequence’ of a core / source nature / part of me
in the depths of my mind and being when it came to only focusing on the ‘moments
of fights’ in the secrets of my mind and in real moments with others in my
life. That I haven’t seen, realised and understood or became aware of the fact
that: the ‘fighting’ in my mind and with others in my life only came into
creation because there is a deeper part of me in my mind / being bringing it
into creation. Not remembering that, the moment something manifests either in
one’s mind or one’s life – it’s originating from a greater / deeper part of one’s
nature / presence. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">I
forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to diminish and limit my
own awareness of me, my mind by always only focusing on the ‘surface’ / ‘conscious’
experiences when it came up in my thoughts and/or when it was actually already
too late by the time when I participate in an argument / fight with another
person and only during / afterwards wanting to fix / mend the relationship /
experience with another. I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed
myself to see, realise and understand that everything that comes up in my mind
and in my life is outflow consequence – it’s already “too late” as it’s
something that has already come into creation and manifested. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">I
forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to “apply the
principle of prevention” by taking a breath, taking a step back and asking
myself “but what IN me and OF me is bringing these ‘fights’ in my mind and with
others in my life into creation?” “Why am I only ever trying to deal with / fix
/ mend and take responsibility for the fights I accept and allow to play out in
my mind / my life only once it’s already happened?” <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">To take
with you in this post: the process I briefly showed above within the Self
Forgiveness statements is what assisted and supported me to really see and
become aware of the depths and scope of this ‘fighting nature’ within the mind
and self. Initially, if you have a look at it: you mostly deal with and sort
out ‘fights’ in your mind and with others in your life only during / after it
has happened – never realising that such ‘fights’ that already manifested in
your mind and your life is but an outflow consequence creation / manifestation…trying
to ‘fix’ / ‘mend’ / ‘deal with’ such fighting only during / after is already ‘too
late’. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">To
REALLY understand this nature of fighting within one’s mind and one’s life you
have to take a DEEPER look into your mind / consciousness and what within the
mind / self is bringing such experiences within self and one’s life into
creation. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif;">This
I will continue with in the next post – again through Self Forgiveness
statements sharing the deeper energy / dimensions of the mind / consciousness
involved with bringing such ‘fighting’ within self and with others in one’s
life into creation. Also, how to PREVENT the creation / manifestation of such
fighting within oneself and one’s mind through the process of redefining and
living words…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-31879860840290868602015-11-30T05:53:00.000-08:002015-11-30T05:53:06.539-08:00I’m Tired of Fighting<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
I’m Tired of Fighting<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with our own thoughts<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight against the inner
conflict we experience when emotions seem to get the upper hand inside
ourselves and we’re fraught in moments with what seems to be a never-ending
chaos<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with ourselves to act normal
– be presentable, accepted, not judged<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight when we judge ourselves<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight just to get through
another day<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with ourselves in the
mornings to wake up<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with ourselves in the
evening to try and rest<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with money<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with survival<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with others in our
imaginations or through our actions / words<o:p></o:p></div>
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We even fight when we suppress –
subtly manipulating ourselves or others out of spite<o:p></o:p></div>
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We feel like we have to fight
sometimes to be heard or seen<o:p></o:p></div>
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We feel like we have to fight
against the world / people / systems to help reach out to those who can’t help
themselves – such as reaching out for funding, donations, food, water,
education, healthcare and other basic needs<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with our own bodies<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with the nature /
experience of our present lives – never happy / satisfied with who we are, why
we are, where we are<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight for a better self / mind
/ body<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight against other’s beliefs,
opinions, ideas, religions, spiritualities, views<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with our own memories<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with our imaginations /
fantasies <o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to survive<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to live<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to be loved / accepted /
cherished, cared for, noticed<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight when we do our best to
stand up for others who can’t in moments for themselves, when most around you
want to fight / attack<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight when we believe the
solution we see to things is the ONLY way and not willing to incorporate or
include others’ insights and perspectives to expand on solutions even more<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to try and make a
difference to so many problems in this world – when you have to come against
the money system, politics, governments, laws, officials<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to try and make a
difference in another’s person’s life who refuses to help themselves / change
for the better of not only themselves but others as well<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with our own
suppressions<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight through addictions /
habitual behaviour patterns we know are compromising ourselves and others on
some level or another<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight for change<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight to change<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight the very food we eat<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight the water we drink<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight healthcare systems<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight money systems<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight against political
systems<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight against education
systems<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight against governments<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight those who have money<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight those who don’t have
money<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with ourselves when we
make a mistake<o:p></o:p></div>
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We fight with others when they
make mistakes…<o:p></o:p></div>
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…the list can go on when you
start seeing and understanding this nature of fighting that exists within us
and our lives.<o:p></o:p></div>
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For today’s post – I would like each
one to realise and observe how much and how often this nature of ‘fighting’ comes
through within yourself, towards yourself, towards others and life in general.
It happens so much and so often…it’s shocking to realise for yourself the
extent to which we still accept and allow this in everyday life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I have given examples above
regarding this nature of fighting. To specify more: this nature / experience of
fighting can come through in subtle and intense ways inside yourself, towards
others and life in general. It’s the experience in moments where your emotions
intensify, your body becomes rigid / tense and your entire being / presence
goes into a state of ‘attack or defence’. These moments actually happen more
throughout your day than you realise – leading to a mental and physical exhaustion
we are barely aware of, but can create many different outflow consequences. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So, for this post: have a look at
the nature of fighting in the small / subtle moments of everyday life. To
become aware of the extent this ‘fighting experience’ exists within you,
because in the next post we’ll have a look at how this often leads to a moment
within yourself where you say: “I’m tired of fighting” / “I don’t want to fight
anymore” / “Is there another way”? I have reached this point within myself and
my process many times when I accepted and allowed this ‘nature of fighting’
within me to take control / overwhelm my thoughts and emotional experiences –
reaching a point of mental and physical exhaustion that this ‘fighting
experience’ within me has created. But, it also opened my eyes to realising the
various ways this ‘fighting’ has come to manifest on a collective and global
scale within humanity and why my eyes were previously veiled from seeing the
extent of the problem when it comes to this dimension of ‘fighting’ that exists
within us all in one way or another. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I will in the next post share how
I am and have been dealing with / directing this ‘fighting’ that I’ve become
aware of within me – sharing the nature and design of it within the mind /
consciousness and how to support yourself to release your being from such a
state of living and experience. More importantly: why it is pivotal to change
this nature within yourself to be able to support others to change as well – so
that we stop creating and living in a world defined by ‘fighting to live’ and
start creating and living in a world defined by reason and purpose and LIVE,
for self and all of existence as well. </div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-8204145890070060132015-09-14T08:47:00.000-07:002015-09-14T08:47:20.120-07:00If can’t Beat ‘em…Join ‘em: Changing your relationship to Sleepless nights<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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If can’t Beat ‘em…Join
‘em: Changing your relationship to Sleepless nights</div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In the next post I
will continue with how these three dimensions of conflict contributes to
sleepless, restless nights and the irony of wanting to use sleep as an escape
mechanism…yet, you’ll find your worries, fears and problems follow you to sleep
and tends to do the exact opposite by keeping you awake!</i></div>
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It almost feels like you’re being ‘lead on’ by your own mind
and body the moments before getting into bed – because you experience enough
tiredness / exhaustion to know you can just close your eyes and be off to a
good night’s rest…but then, while you’re getting comfortable: here comes the thoughts
and emotions rushing into your mind - perpetuating you into a state of
awakeness. Suddenly everything becomes uncomfortable, you can’t find a position
to sleep / rest in, being thrown between experiences of being awake and
exhausted as your thoughts and emotions refuse to settle down. </div>
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We tend to miss the obvious: the ONE place where you can
make a difference, where you can take control – is INSIDE yourself when it
comes to your relationship with your OWN mind. This is the ONE place / space
where only YOU exist. Yet, we tend to want to change everything else OUTSIDE
ourselves, THINK about everything / everyone else OUTSIDE ourselves - taking
the OUTER reality into the INNER reality wrap it up in emotional energy /
reactions...and so we create a compound effect of problems / issues WITHIN
ourselves. </div>
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The KEY here is to ‘unwrap’ the emotional charges / energy
from the outer-reality problems / issues you’ve brought into your inner
reality. Your inner reality should be a ‘sanctuary’ of sorts where you do not
accept and allow emotional reactions to veil your inner eye / sight as your
directive principle to be able to LOOK at / assess things within and as self
honesty, stability and clarity to so be able to make informed decisions when it
comes to finding / creating solutions to things coming up inside yourself /
that you face in everyday life. </div>
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If we cannot handle or direct as finding solutions for the
things going on in our INNER REALITY we’re connected to and DIRECTLY
responsible for…the very INNER REALITY relationship we have with ourselves will
be reflected in our outer reality and relationship to the people, situations
and environments we’re exposed to in everyday life. </div>
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One thing to realise is that: your inner reality won’t sort
itself out. It’s interesting how we tend to find any and every way possible to
run away / suppress or just ignore the things we’re fighting with inside
ourselves. With the consequences – staying in the very thoughts and reactions
of problems / issues inside yourself, tossing and turning at nights, fuelling
the stress / anxieties levels making concentration and living during the days
to come so much more difficult…Yet we wouldn’t put in the time or effort to
take a breather, take a moment, even a couple of minutes of the day to slow
down and introspect / reflect on the troubles we’re accepting and allowing
ourselves to haunt our minds and compromise the health and stability of our
physical bodies…</div>
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In the next post I will continue expanding on how you can
use the time and also physical and mental energy in the evenings when you
cannot sleep due to problems / issues in your thoughts / mind keeping you awake:
to rather than remaining in the thoughts and reactions, using mental and physical
energy to do so – use the time and energy to do introspection / reflection and
sort out / direct the experiences inside yourself. </div>
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This will over time assist and support you to develop the
directive principle within yourself to not accept and allow your inner reality
to be thwarted with conflict – but direct and sort out your inner reality in
such a way where, when conflicts arise: you’re immediately present and aware to
be able to sort it out and find solutions, so that you can support yourself to
be in a state of stability and groundedness within and without; and so handle
the issues / problems everyday life may present to you with much more stability
and groundedness. </div>
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When I want to Sleep my problems away – yet my problems keep
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Then continue with
point 2. – the second dimension I experienced contributing to sleepless and
restless nights, which is when you have stressful / emotional thoughts and
experiences within you creating the inner conflict of alertness and exhaustion;
also how to assist and support yourself when facing such experiences within
you.</i></div>
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Many use sleep as an escape mechanism…especially when it
comes to having to wake up in the mornings and you really just don’t want to,
because everything of you knows what is ahead when you open your eyes and walk
into the day: having to deal with yourself, others and life. What I mean with
having to deal with yourself: is the non-stop inner conflict you can be
presented with within your thoughts and emotions, having to deal with your
inner reality. This is most difficult at times when you don’t have the tools /
guidance when it comes to directing your thoughts and emotions. I have personally
found that: if my inner reality is in chaos / conflict – it makes it
exceptionally difficult / challenging to deal with the unpredictable we walk
into when it comes to everyday life, which creates a third dimension of
conflict: the conflict between the inner and the outer. </div>
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1<sup>st</sup> Dimension of conflict: Inner conflict</div>
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This is when you have things going on inside yourself in relation
to yourself, others / life itself that keeps you occupied in your thoughts and
emotions.</div>
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2<sup>nd</sup> Dimension of conflict: Outer conflict</div>
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This happens as you walk your day and things happen /
transpire in everyday life you didn’t expect which tends to ADD to the already
existent inner conflict within you</div>
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3<sup>rd</sup> Dimension of conflict:</div>
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This is when there’s a ‘clash’ of sorts between your inner
reality and outer reality – where, as you’re dealing with things inside
yourself, more things happen outside yourself with relationships / situations.
So as you’re essentially walking pre-existent inner conflict within yourself,
you’re also at the same time met with outer conflict with things happening in
moments throughout your day. This is what makes it so the more challenging /
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I realised that I can’t predict the outcome of each day. The
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However, I’ve realised that: as long as I have problems / issues inside myself
I am not dealing with / directing it tends to disempower me in MOMENTS throughout
my day, because then - instead of DIRECTING or solving conflicts / problems
that I’m met with throughout my day, I tend to project / exert my own personal
issues / problems / inner conflicts onto / towards things I walk into /
experience in everyday life. Therefore, I cannot control the conflicts /
problems I face in everyday life – but I can take response-ability (the ability
to respond as becoming the directive principle) of my own mind, my own thoughts
and emotions within me. </div>
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So, by taking my power in my relationship with my own mind –
resolving the INNER conflicts I face / experience, I can so walk my everyday
life experience in such a way where I can ensure that my own inner conflicts
are not projected / exerted onto / towards the unexpected / unpredictable I may
face in everyday life. Walking my everyday life experience with more stability
and clarity within myself, empowering myself to in moments – rather than
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person/people and situations much better, to stand within the self empowered
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We don’t realise that this is what we do / accept / allow if
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and it start filtering through our words and actions, especially in moments
where we should be standing to find solutions, we instead ADD to problems /
conflict / chaos in everyday life. Therefore, with you assisting and supporting
yourself to transform your relationship with inner conflict / chaos to sorting
it out, dealing with things you’re going through and directing it – you embody
such a nature / presence within and as yourself and it will equally start
filtering into your outside world life experiences. Where, instead of adding to
problems / conflicts, you will be able to stand in such a way so as to always
direct it, find solutions, resolve matters. </div>
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In the next post I will continue with how these three
dimensions of conflict contributes to sleepless, restless nights and the irony
of wanting to use sleep as an escape mechanism…yet, you’ll find your worries,
fears and problems follow you to sleep and tends to do the exact opposite by keeping
you awake!</div>
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<i> </i>To Sleep or Not to Sleep - the Dilemma with Tiredness</div>
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<i>In this video, I share how I supported myself when it came to
experiencing tiredness – what I did to change and redefine my
relationship to the experience, especially when it came to facing the
dilemma of not being tired / ready to go to bed when I had to rest /
sleep.</i><br />
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Sleeping: Trying to
fight a losing battle</div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">(Oh! Goodnight’s rest, Goodnight’s rest…wherefore art thou Goodnight’s
rest? – continued)</i></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I will in the next
post continue with how I initially in point 1. above emotionally reacted to not
being particularly tired and trying to force myself to sleep / rest – how I
walked through this process to a point of simply embracing the experience and staying
awake for a while longer and/or using breathing and self forgiveness to fall
asleep. </i></div>
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For quite some time, in evenings when I couldn’t fall asleep
– being awake and alert, slightly tired but not enough for me to want to move
myself into bed to go to sleep - I in such evenings would emotionally react to
this experience thinking: “I should be sleeping, got a long day tomorrow, going
to be tired, I’ll regret this, got so much to do / get done” etc. So, my
thoughts and experiences would go all over the place in relation to this moment
in the evenings of not being tired and being able to fall asleep. Obviously
making matter worse for myself, because the more I think and react, the more my
adrenaline starts rushing as my heart is racing because of the extent of
thoughts and emotions I accept and allow within myself and so - the more awake
/ alert I become, making it so much more difficult for myself to be in a state
of comfort and rest within myself and my body. </div>
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The above, opens up two important points to consider:</div>
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Emotionally reacting to genuinely not being tired</div>
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Making sleeping dependent on feeling tired</div>
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Initially this was an odd experience for me: having NO
reason for not being tired / not physically experiencing myself as being ‘restful’.
I grew up experiencing and believing that ‘you’ve got to feel and be tired –
mentally and physically to go to sleep’. When I was not particularly tired
mentally and/or physically – I went into the experience (or more the emotional
reaction) of: “So, what now?” </div>
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Initially, my first response to this was to emotionally react
- going into fear, anxiety and stress because of not feeling tired / not
particularly wanting to go to sleep. Then I’d go to bed, try breathing, but
eventually roll around for HOURS. During the rolling around trying to FORCE
myself to sleep while at the same time being emotional and thinking A LOT about
not being able to sleep, trying to sleep, thinking about the next day and all
sorts of other things – I would literally think and react myself into a state,
only because of the relationship I had created towards sleeping / resting / tiredness
within my Mind. </div>
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Such evenings (not having any reason / why for not being
tired / not feeling restful) would not come often. I mostly would not be able
to sleep due to real things bothering me within myself – such as things in
myself and my life causing stress / anxiety / fear. I would be physically
tired, REALLY tired, but thinking and reacting so much I wouldn’t be able to
fall asleep ‘cause my body is in a conflict of exhaustion and alertness due to
what’s going on inside of me/my mind. This experience – I was very familiar with.
When I can’t sleep due to this – I know the reason / why of me not being able
to fall asleep / really rest. This I will expand on my next posts in terms of
assisting and supporting you with practical methods of how to walk through the
thoughts / reactions contributing to you not being able to fall asleep /
genuinely rest. But for now, getting back to honestly having no particular
reason for not being tired / being able to fall asleep…</div>
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What I eventually did, when I recognised that I was simply
honestly not tired / restful was to firstly breathe, slow down and forgive any
reactions I had towards me not being able to fall asleep / not being tired.
Realising within this I am just going to make matters worse for myself if I try
and FIGHT the fact that I am not tired and try and FIGHT myself into falling
asleep with my own thoughts and emotions lol In this, essentially, fighting a
losing battle. I would usually do the breathing / slowing down process during
the evening after taking a nice hot shower / bath. I found during such
evenings, taking a nice hot shower / bath really settles and grounds the body.
Once this is done, I would then reassess myself and decide on one of two
things:</div>
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Either going to bed, closing my eyes, breathing and then eventually
slowly but surely settling into my body and send myself off into a deep restful
slumber</div>
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Or I would stay awake, getting some work done - staying
awake for a couple of hours more until eventually deciding to go to sleep. </div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
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<div class="MsoNormal">
I will in the next post continue with how I found that I
could go to sleep by making a DECISION yet not being tired and also how, even if
I only had a couple of hours of sleep a night cause of staying awake due to not
being tired – I wouldn’t be as tired the next day. How much of this has got to
do with “who you are” before and during going to sleep that very much
determines your mental and physical state / experience the next day. </div>
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SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-64437040354439043432015-09-02T20:40:00.000-07:002015-09-02T20:40:47.024-07:00Oh! Good night’s rest, Good night’s rest…wherefore art thou Good night’s rest?<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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Oh! Good night’s rest,
Good night’s rest…wherefore art thou Good night’s rest?</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiODnQMQ1I7Vf5R-T8jKbMjwoJmnvPouteefpUDD0oubKPJYMGO_CFMwyzKQ-ipmDqRQGJNsNW4WwS_vJ3GVykB_HpaAbjSiUg4AdpZ6bZnt_QZCo6AV3SEF3ZSnrCG_YHomKDqqU1gelY/s1600/love+sleep.jpg" imageanchor="1" multilinks-noscroll="true" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiODnQMQ1I7Vf5R-T8jKbMjwoJmnvPouteefpUDD0oubKPJYMGO_CFMwyzKQ-ipmDqRQGJNsNW4WwS_vJ3GVykB_HpaAbjSiUg4AdpZ6bZnt_QZCo6AV3SEF3ZSnrCG_YHomKDqqU1gelY/s1600/love+sleep.jpg" /></a></div>
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Interesting with having a look at the meaning of “wherefore
art thou” – I understood “wherefore art thou” to mean “where are you”, when it
in fact it means “why are you”. This coming from Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet
quote <a href="http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/262200.html" multilinks-noscroll="true">“O Romeo, Romeo! wherefore art thou Romeo?”</a> </div>
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This is essentially the question I am asking within this
post: WHY my good night’s rest some is just beyond my reach some evenings – where I
am physically tired and sometimes exhausted, but mentally awake / alert; placing
me in this experience of a good night’s rest being so close, yet so far away at
the same time – creating the inner conflict between alertness and exhaustion
yet yearning for the comfort of a deep slumber. This experience, I find, is quite
similar to the relationship between Romeo and Juliet, especially in the scene
where Juliet is crying out to Romeo. I sometimes feel this way when it comes to
my good night’s rest: as though I am standing, calling out to ‘my love’ lol ‘my
good night’s rest’ – yearning for it, being so close, yet so far away at the
same time while being in the conflict between exhaustion and alertness. </div>
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Some may be wondering why I am connecting a good night’s rest
to the conflicting love relationship between Romeo and Juliet as depicted by
Shakespeare: We all in some way or another have a ‘love relationship’ when it
comes to a good night’s rest. What I mean with a ‘love relationship’ is that we
really appreciate, honour, respect and value our sleep…no matter how few or
many hours of rest we get to have - a good night’s rest is the best in so many
ways! </div>
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Having a look at rest, a good night’s sleep – this is a vital
part of your general health and living experience. Sleepless, restless nights
have a major impact on your mental and physical experience. Interestingly
enough, the reason, the WHY behind sleepless nights, I have experienced, also
very much determines your mental and physical functioning the next day. There
are two main ‘why’s’ / ‘reasons’ I have personally experienced contributes to
my sleepless and/or restless nights:</div>
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1. Some evenings I am genuinely not experiencing myself as ‘wanting
to / needing to’ sleep for many hours, so then I sleep less.</div>
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Within the above point, I’ve experienced <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/my-mind-won-t-let-me-sleep-life-review" multilinks-noscroll="true">not being able tosleep</a> / rest some evenings where I’m genuinely not particularly tired. I can
physically ‘feel’ / ‘experience’ I am able to sleep/rest – but not enough for
me to actually move myself to get into bed and close my eyes to send myself off
into a deep restful slumber. Here, nothing per say is ‘keeping me awake’ within
myself in the sense of for example being stressed / bothered / reactive /
preoccupied with something / someone within me / my life. I’m very much stable
and grounded within such experiences during evenings and so then I continue
busying myself for a while longer until eventually I decide to go to rest to
get in some hours of sleep in – considering all my responsibilities and
everything I need to tend to the next day. </div>
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I have experimented with such evenings in the way of:</div>
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a) Sometimes I will stay awake a while longer and then go to
sleep. Even with less hours, I do wake up the next morning feeling slightly <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/mental-tiredness-vs-physical-tiredness-atlanteans-part-2-part-62" multilinks-noscroll="true">tired</a>,
but not too much – very seldom even needing an afternoon nap. Yet, sometimes I
will take an afternoon nap for about 40 minutes to an hour, but this very much
depends also on how active / busy my day is / will be. </div>
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b) Other times, I know I could stay awake – but then do decide
to go lie down and I simply breathe, look at some points within myself, play
with sounding some self forgiveness until I eventually close my eyes and gently
move into the embracing, comforting arms of a good night’s rest. </div>
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I will in the next post continue with how I initially in
point 1. above emotionally reacted to not being particularly tired and trying
to force myself to sleep / rest – how I walked through this process to a point
of simply embracing the experience and staying awake for a while longer and/or
using breathing and self forgiveness to fall asleep. Then continue with point
2. – the second dimension I experienced contributing to sleepless and restless nights,
which is when you have stressful / emotional thoughts and experiences within
you creating the inner conflict of alertness and exhaustion; also how to assist
and support yourself when facing such experiences within you. </div>
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Speak Now…or Forever
hold your Peace</div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">So, in the next post –
I will share a process of self forgiveness and self commitment statements
together with a way to approach these types of moments within you, to let go of
both emotions and feelings and find that point of self expression within you
where YOU speak / share / express yourself and not try and do it through
emotions and feelings that can cloud your judgment and hamper your directive
principle and creation of a moment within you and with someone else. - See more
at: </i><a href="http://practical-desteni.blogspot.com/#sthash.BH1XWBAf.dpuf" multilinks-noscroll="true"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">http://practical-desteni.blogspot.com/#sthash.BH1XWBAf.dpuf</i></a><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> </i></div>
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Let’s start with some practical points you can use to assist
and support yourself to know when you’re about to speak up / ask a question
within an emotional state and how to change yourself in the moment to speak
with stability and clarity for your words and the point you want to bring
across to come through in such a way where it’s supportive for you and the
other person:</div>
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What is important to remember is that you know how you are /
experience yourself when you are ‘natural’ and comfortable – so, you are
actually more aware than you realise when it comes to moments you face inside
yourself and you’re the complete opposite in how you speak and behave, but most
importantly how your sound and words come through. </div>
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So, what to be aware of before you speak up / as a question:
note your body, meaning the experience of yourself in the body as well as
emotional / reactive movements in your solar plexus. If you within your body
start becoming uncomfortable, for instance tensing up, breathing becoming
faster and shallow, becoming hot and sweaty, your eyes widening and your words
coming out all jumbled, difficulty forming the words, your thoughts moving VERY
fast or your mind throwing a blank and the sentences you speak are not flowing
naturally one after the other – here are various references you can use to
compare the difference between speaking within emotion versus naturally
expressing you. While this is happening within you and the body – your emotions
also escalate, leading to not being able to translate your fast spinning
thoughts/ blank mind into words, skipping sentences / words and then eventually
coming to a point of saying things you didn’t intend to nor in the way that you
intended you. Essentially – saying and being the TOTAL opposite to what you
intended to speak about / ask. </div>
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STEP 1: Take a breath and step back for a moment</div>
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Look out for the above signs of physical and emotional
reactions – when you notice this starts happening within you before / just when
you’re about to speak and ask, this is where it’s important to take a breath
within yourself and for a moment take a step back. </div>
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I have oftentimes found the PRIMARY cause for such reactions
in me and the body to be due to emotions. Where there is some part of me that
is not standing clear within myself in relation to the question I’d like to ask
or the point I’d like to speak about. Essentially that there is an emotional
relationship / thought / memory connecting me to the point I’d like to ask /
speak about that is interfering with me standing AS the question / point and
sharing it / speaking about it naturally as me. </div>
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STEP 2: Identify the source of the reactions</div>
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Here you have to realise that the moment is showing you
something about yourself more than it is about having to speak / ask in that
moment. </div>
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Remember, ‘there’s always time’ and when it comes to having
to ask / speak up – it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to IMMEDIATELY,
because it is equally important to assess yourself, the moment and the other
person before speaking up. We often think / believe that just because a point
is coming up in us RIGHT NOW we have to speak it RIGHT NOW – when most of the
time, we’re still in reactions inside ourselves, towards the person and
whatever point you and the other(s) are facing, that - ‘speaking in the moment’
while in a state within yourself actually creates more consequence than
effective direction / solutions. </div>
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So, this in itself is an important point to consider within
your process overall really: to look at this moment within yourself and your
life when it comes to communication – to before speaking / acting, make sure
you are clear on a point, your relationship to yourself and another person.
Then, transferring information / sharing / asking becomes SUPPORTIVE for you
and another. If / when the other person does react / respond, yet you remain
stable – you’re able to remain calm and collected and walk the moment in real
time effectively. As opposed to what tends to happen / play out in the moment
when you’re in reaction and they’re in reaction and the moment produce inner
and/or outer conflict for one / both of you. </div>
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So, this lines up with the saying “speak now or forever hold
your peace”, which does not hold true for all contexts of speaking up / asking
questions. For this post – what I’d like each one to practise is assisting and
supporting yourself to observe moments where you speak in reactions and how it
plays out, compared to when you before speaking up / sharing / asking a
question – breathe, step back within yourself, slow yourself down and speak /
ask / share with a more stable / calm expression. To see for yourself how
giving yourself that one moment – can change an entire experience for yourself
and so for another. </div>
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In the next post we’ll explore how to source the reactions
to a question / sharing / moment of communication to stabilise / ground
yourself, what tends to ‘chase’ you within yourself to think / believe you have
to speak up NOW instead of realising MOST moments are best communicated when
considering the timing and the relationship between you and another person.
That most of the time, that which you want to communicate / share – is more a
PERSONAL point for you to realise within yourself than having to openly
communicate it. To understand this – we’ll walk more in the next post. </div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-61287610558378194892015-04-21T01:07:00.000-07:002015-04-21T01:07:08.878-07:00When you’re Nervous Asking a Question and Speaking up – Practical Support<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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When you’re Nervous
Asking a Question and Speaking up – Practical Support</div>
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<b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Note: this is an expansion of my post “<a href="http://realmomentswithme.blogspot.com/2015/04/help-nervousness-ruined-my-moment.html">Help! Nervousness ruined my Moment!</a>” in my blog “<a href="http://realmomentswithme.blogspot.com/">Moments with Me</a>”</i></b></div>
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I observed three primary things influencing me in the moment
when I was overwhelmed by nervousness, which escalated into fear and anxiety:
1. Nervousness about the particular question / topic I wanted to discuss, 2.
Nervousness about how the other individual would respond and lastly 3. Nervousness
in relation to how the moment was playing out. </div>
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Another dimension to share here is how it all started: I
looked at a point I wanted to ask them / share with them and within that point
I was both excited and fearful - mainly because I didn’t know how they were
going to respond – lol, so I to a certain extent prepared myself energetically
with positive and negative energy for whichever of the two ways the
conversation will turn out. </div>
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Interestingly enough, I was more aware of the excitement
with the undercurrent of fear only ever so slightly noticeable in my solar
plexus and body. So, I was in fact experiencing BOTH excitement and fear. When
understanding how emotional and feeling energy of the Mind works: even though
you may be in an overall ‘positive experience’ (for example, I consciously
focused on the excitement I was experiencing) – the positive actually feeds the
negative (the fear I was experiencing) a lot more, but was not aware of the
undercurrents moving in the back of my mind and body, because my awareness was
more consciously focused in the forefront experience of the positive /
excitement energy than the background experience of the negative / fear energy.
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So, the moment could have played out one of two ways: 1. The
way it did play out – was that ALL the negative energy (fear) I accumulated
together with the positive energy (excitement) discharged in that moment into
an overall emotional overwhelmingness of fear, anxiety and nervousness. So, it
was like the tidal wave of emotional energy opened up cause the floodgate for
it activated the moment (according to my interpretation / experience of the
moment) it turned negative / bad based on how I spoke, approached the whole
thing and as well as the other’s response. OR it would have gone the other way
2. The way it would have played out if the response was (according to how I would
have perceived / interpreted the moment) positive / good – then, ALL the
negative / emotional energy from within the undercurrents would have pushed up
and into the positive energy / excitement and so escalated the excitement
experience into an overall happiness where the positive energy would have been
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Therefore – dependent on how the moment plays out…either all
the negative energy will push through into the conscious experience, or the
negative energy will push into / fuel the positive energy creating that
conscious experience of being REALLY overjoyed / happy. </div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">(Note – I will do
interviews available on <a href="http://eqafe.com/">EQAFE</a> explaining the detail of how these dynamics
between positive and negative plays out in the Mind, creating the crash into
the negative or the rise into the positive. Essentially what is really involved
in moments when you suddenly get overwhelmed by intense emotion or feelings dependent
on feedback from your outside world)</i></div>
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Therefore I realised that there was positive and negative
energy involved from the get-go of speaking up / asking the question. Then all
the energy in my mind and body escalated into the moment where the very topic /
question in my Mind (now essentially surrounded by positive and negative
energy) were to be spoken into the physical. So, because the undercurrent was
fear, anxiety and nervousness yet the conscious experience was excitement – my voice
may have initially sounded ‘good’ and it ‘felt’ like I was in a ‘good space’
when I was sharing / asking…but my body and tonality was showing the fear,
anxiety and nervousness. This is also interesting about negative energy –
whether conscious of it or not, when it is an undercurrent moving ever so
slightly in your Mind: it is in fact the negative energy that will come through
in the physical more predominantly than the positive energy. So, in that moment
I became the EMBODIMENT of the positive and negative energy I surrounded the
topic / question with, in my Mind - and brought all of that into manifestation
/ creation in the moment. </div>
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Thus explaining here how and why it is that if one is energetically
reacting to a point in the Mind and keep on feeding it energy – eventually it
comes through you, through the body into creation / manifestation and this
oftentimes leads to creating moments that are not supportive for you or another
person – especially if they do not understand what you’re going through inside
yourself and will most likely react to you. </div>
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The reaction from the other person is not personal –
remember this. They are simply reacting to you, because they have no ‘program’
as ‘understanding’ to access / fall back in relation to you / what you’re
saying and how – especially with all the energy you are coming at them with and
more in fact how you change the moment you spoke / acted. Also, they’ve got
different ways of dealing with things and you do not know what thoughts /
emotions got triggered by you in that moment. </div>
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So, overall – within this first post, sharing what I could
see in terms of how emotional and feeling energy builds up over time in
relation to a question / point you hold onto in the Mind and how / why it
happens that one’s experience will go to either extreme of positive or
negative. More importantly: seeing here what contributes to your voice,
tonality, body language and everything else coming out / through all weird /
different and uncomfortable! It's thus not YOU, your SELF EXPRESSION speaking –
it is you ‘channelling’ yourself through emotions and feelings, that manifest
into the body and so creates an uncomfortable moment not only in reality, but
also inside of you. </div>
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I have found this to happen especially when I do not / have
not developed a way of communication / expression of ‘who I am’, where the only
‘foundation / program’ I have within me is to speak / express with emotional
and/or feeling energy. </div>
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So, in the next post – I will share a process of self
forgiveness and self commitment statements together with a way to approach
these types of moments within you, to let go of both emotions and feelings and
find that point of self expression within you where YOU speak / share / express
yourself and not try and do it through emotions and feelings that can cloud
your judgment and hamper your directive principle and creation of a moment
within you and with someone else. </div>
SunetteSpieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14322694524481594512noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305476733178344931.post-31636556180009484412015-01-20T01:05:00.001-08:002015-01-20T01:05:19.418-08:00Getting to know Oneself through Observing Others<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Getting to know Oneself through Observing Others</b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">The Evil that is Gossip (Part 3)</b></div>
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<i multilinks-noscroll="true" style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In the next post we’re
going to have a look at how we as individuals can take personal responsibility
first and foremost: see where within yourself you accept and allow this
programming and participate in the perception, interpretation and assumption
programming within yourself when observing other people. This so that you can
for yourself see the extent to which you do this to yourself, as well as others
in not giving them the opportunity to share who / why / how they are and in so
doing – separating you from others in <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/your-mind-your-teacher-reptilians-part-358" multilinks-noscroll="true">your own
Mind</a> with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions
more than actually getting to know a person. </i></div>
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The main point that supported me in this process of ensuring
I don’t fall into the trap of perception, interpretation and assumption –
believing my own frames of reference / worldview more than actually getting to
know another person: is self-honesty. Self-honesty from the perspective of
assisting and supporting myself to, in the moment I observe another person / people
and I identify reactions / movements of energy accompanied with thoughts and
backchat: I’d do <a href="http://www.facebook.com/groups/journeytolife/" multilinks-noscroll="true">self-forgiveness</a>
within myself first and foremost, then realise that what came up within me was
my limited reference / understanding as ideas I’ve formed of another person /
people based on the limited amount of knowledge and information I acquired. If
I do not have the opportunity to go up to the person / people and ask / get to
know them, I simply SEE ME – meaning: realise that I in that moment actually
more observed myself than others and when / as I do have the opportunity to go
up to a person / people and talk with them / get to know them I then add /
expand my already existent knowledge and information. </div>
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See, what is interesting here when it comes to observing
other people and especially when our thoughts / backchats / projections and
reactions activates, is that: in that moment – we are not in fact in a moment
of observing another person as it is that we are observing our own MINDS. </div>
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I have, within my <a href="http://desteni.org/" multilinks-noscroll="true">personal
process</a>, learned the most about myself by introspecting what triggers /
activates in my own Mind with other people and have changed my relationship
with many people by applying this one simple point: before I speak / act in
relation to another person – I first check my self-honesty, my thoughts and
reactions – walk forgiveness, breathe, make sure I am clear in who and how I am
to essentially be able to approach a person in a moment with a ‘blank slate’
within me. Meaning – connecting with a person in a way where I essentially
stand before them as “this is who I am” not as “this is who I am together with
my thoughts and reactions about you”. Because otherwise, you don’t give
yourself nor the other person the opportunity to genuinely ‘meet’ one another,
as whatever they do / say you will filter through your already existent
perceptions, interpretations and assumptions – always having a wall between you
and them, and then LOOKING for things they do and say to confirm / deny your
preconceptions. Then, it doesn’t become about getting to know them – the process
becomes about you wanting to validate / justify your own frames of reference /
worldview about things, because you are standing in the starting point of “I am
right in how I SEE and what I SEE” – it’s all about solidifying the <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/reptilians-giving-up-knowledge-for-life-part-42" multilinks-noscroll="true">knowledge
and information in the Mind</a>, completely missing the plot of actually
getting to know another person, intimately - really understanding and seeing
what is within / behind what they do / say, the reasons for who and how they
are. No one honestly has access into this (another person’s Mind, history and
entire life) cause you only have access to your own Mind, your own thoughts and
reactions and so you cannot in fact look into another person’s mind, history,
their entire life to directly and clearly see EVERYTHING that happened to them
to shape, mould and create them into the person standing before you in a
conversation…</div>
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So, this is one of the primary mistakes everyone makes:
thinking that you can ‘know’ a person just by looking at them or spending a
little time with them – because for some reason, people have come to trust
their own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions in the mind more and <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/you-think-you-re-living-reptilians-part-181" multilinks-noscroll="true">BELIEVE</a>
in that more than actually putting in the time and effort of getting to know a
person intimately and having them SHARE who they are and WITH THEM through
their words, stories and sharing of themselves and their lives SEE who they are
through their eyes, through their words, through who and how they are with you
in space and time. </div>
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So, with this, what I would suggest for everyone to consider
applying and implementing in your own life is realising that – especially when
you’re in the beginning stages of your process of understanding the Mind of
thoughts, emotions etc. (here I would suggest researching the <a href="http://lite.desteniiprocess.com/" multilinks-noscroll="true">DIP Lite</a> process that introduces
you to the basic mechanics of how Consciousness operates and then <a href="http://desteniiprocess.com/" multilinks-noscroll="true">DIP Pro</a> that takes you deeper into your Consciousness
in understanding how your thoughts and reactions creates behaviour / habits and
so your general life experience with relationships, decisions / choices, the
future etc. – how you through the Mind are in fact creating who, how and what
you are and your life is and how to assist and support yourself to empower
yourself to change your life through changing yourself for the better) – is realising
that: whenever you are observing / looking at other people, take a moment and
REMIND yourself to breathe, to first and foremost <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/self-awareness-steps-for-the-elite-introduction-part-1" multilinks-noscroll="true">INTROSPECT</a>
and SEE what thoughts and reactions are coming up inside yourself, FIRST SEE
what you can <a href="https://eqafe.com/" multilinks-noscroll="true">LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF</a> in that
moment, learn about your mind based on knowledge and information you accepted
and allowed that is in fact limiting you from <a href="https://selfandliving.com/" multilinks-noscroll="true">EXPANDING yourself</a> / your knowledge and
information within you as long as you react to perception, interpretation and
assumption in your own Mind. Then to forgive the reactions, realise that what
came up within you is what you understand NOW of what you observed / saw but it
in no way can absolutely define another person cause you don’t have access to
them, their minds, their lives nor do you know them in any way whatsoever – so you
would be limiting you as well as them by holding onto your own beliefs and not
allowing yourself to get to know them, their minds / lives. </div>
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So, this is the first step I would suggest assisting and
supporting oneself with: see how much you can learn about yourself, your own
mind through observing others and when you do have the opportunity to meet
other people – do yourself and them a favour, make sure you’re self honest and
clear upon meeting them and talking with them – to get to know them and so also
get to know you, to expand yourself through getting to know other people –
rather than limiting yourself to your own mind’s beliefs and ideas. Because
this is the thing that’s at the core of creating gossip – people’s minds coming
together validating each other’s beliefs and we need more people who have the
courage to stand up and bring through some awareness and commonsense in such
situations and sharing the consequence of gossip, making people aware of what
gossip is and what we miss in our relationship with other people by believing
gossip more than giving another person / people the opportunity to share who
they are. </div>
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We’ll continue more in the next post…</div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip</b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">The Evil that is Gossip (Part 2)</b></div>
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One of the primary things that fuels gossip is the
relationship between <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/life-review-when-the-mind-falls-in-the-face-of-reality" multilinks-noscroll="true">perception,
interpretation and assumption</a>. I have had conversations with many different
people and the one thing that’s common when they started talking about others
is: they in their Minds perceive another’s behaviour, then interpret it
according to their own ideas / opinions of the particular behaviour and from
there assume their perception and interpretation is correct because they
believe their references in the Mind more than actually walking the space and
time process of getting <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/reptilians-giving-up-knowledge-for-life-part-42" multilinks-noscroll="true">to
know</a> a person. </div>
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So, if you take a step back within yourself and access some
memories (or simply observe your mind when you’re around other people) – within
this having a look at the processes unfolding within your thinking / internal
conversations when watching others: you’ll see how you’ll watch someone talk /
move / do something, then slightly or overtly react to them, then in your mind’s
eye ‘see’ a projection/imagination that encapsulates the overall ‘image’ of the
person and then you’ll start creating an experience towards them based on your <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/the-emotional-and-feeling-body-system-and-physical-energy-alignments" multilinks-noscroll="true">emotional
/ feeling reaction</a>. From here, depending on the reaction being positive or
negative and depending on what data/information/memories/programming you have
already within your Mind – thoughts, backchats etc. will start activating.
Here, your Mind is starting to create a relationship with the person based on
emotion, based on feelings, based on data/information/<a href="https://eqafe.com/p/are-you-a-slave-or-master-to-your-memories-atlanteans-support-part-87" multilinks-noscroll="true">memories</a>/programming
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For most part we have observed that people will approach / respond
/ simply stay away from people based on this platform in the Mind which
constantly decides on the relationship with another based on perception,
interpretation and assumption. Where individuals aren’t even aware of how
little they ASK questions to another person, but in fact reference this
perception-interpretation-assumption equation in the Mind where either positive
and/or negative things will accumulate and as time passes – if the result is
more positive, the person will continue a relationship, if more negative, the
person will slowly but surely distance themselves. </div>
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So, it’s to for yourself see how this particular programming
of your Consciousness operates. Referencing / believing this initial ‘assessment’
of a person in your Mind more than actually asking them questions, having
conversations, spending time together and getting to know them – is causing a
separation within humanity where you have so many people in very few <a href="http://desteniiprocess.com/courses/relationships" multilinks-noscroll="true">relationships</a>, both
partnership and platonic and so many people who have no relationships at all.
Where they either <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/life-review-my-life-of-losing-relationships" multilinks-noscroll="true">isolated
themselves from people</a> because of this programming or have been the
unfortunate ones of being on the receiving end of this programming and others
simply never gave them the opportunity to get to know them as a person. </div>
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I have met people who would go so far as compromising so much
of themselves, just to portray an image / personality for others to keep
everyone else’s minds happy – where they became astute at being able to assess
what other people’s minds expect of them or likes / dislikes / prefers and
accordingly moulded themselves to be able to please everyone’s (or as many as
possible) minds. This primarily coming from and because of the gossip of others
– but even then, despite these efforts, other people’s minds manages to conjure
up gossip about one thing or another. Many people do this with <a href="https://eqafe.com/series/10-self-awareness-steps-for-the-elite" multilinks-noscroll="true">awareness</a>
– maintaining relationships with others because of the fear of gossip, but do
not have any other way of interacting with others and so base their
relationships on keeping everyone else happy, while diminishing / limiting
themselves…</div>
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In this, many people face a conundrum: if you are different –
you’ll be isolated / ostracised and many depend on their relationships outside
of the work environment, for example, when socialising, doing sports activities
/ extracurricular activities etc. If you are / do something that fuels gossip,
it spreads, it affects your relationships, your general experience of yourself –
but not only that, most of the people who’d gossip you may not even know and do
not have or are not given the opportunity to share your side of things and so
everyone is left to their own Minds, their own assumptions of you and you are
powerless to do anything about it. </div>
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So…what do we do? What’s the solution? </div>
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In the next post we’re going to have a look at how we as
individuals can take personal responsibility first and foremost: see where
within yourself you accept and allow this programming and participate in the perception,
interpretation and assumption programming within yourself when observing other
people. This so that you can for yourself see the extent to which you do this
to yourself, as well as others in not giving them the opportunity to share who
/ why / how they are and in so doing – separating you from others in <a href="https://eqafe.com/p/your-mind-your-teacher-reptilians-part-358" multilinks-noscroll="true">your own
Mind</a> with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions
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From here, we’ll also have a look at what we can do to
assist and support ourselves to find a balance in our lives – being aware and
considerate, yes, of who we are in thought, word and deed but at the same time
not accepting and allowing self to live in fear of gossip or other people’s
thoughts / reactions towards you. Obviously being cautious of now wanting to
rebel / go to the extreme of “I don’t care what other people think of me” and
live in absolute disregard of others – herein we’ll open up the dimension of self-honesty
and one’s starting point in thought, word and deed and how important this is in
interacting and building relationships with other people, because if you’re
going to take an emotional / rebellious stance of “I don’t care / give a shit” –
this will obviously create manifested consequence in <a href="http://desteniiprocess.com/courses" multilinks-noscroll="true">your life and relationship with
others</a>…</div>
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We’ll continue more in the next post…</div>
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