The Desteni of Living - My Declaration of Principle: DAY 0

The Desteni of Living - My Declaration of Principle: DAY 0

Here are my living principles that I am in the process of living – where I commit myself to assist and support myself to endeavour becoming, being and living these principles until my within and without (who I am within and how I live without) is equal and one - the same - and where I commit myself to live my utmost potential, even beyond this life into the next.

I will walk each Principle in individual posts to come, explaining each one in detail together with practical examples of how living each Principle changed me in assisting and supporting my life and living experience in this world.

1.       Realising and living my utmost potential

2.       Living by the principle of what is best for all – guiding me in thought, word and deed to always in all ways direct problems to the best possible outcome for all

3.       Living by the principle of self honesty – to ensure I am pure in thought, word and deed: that my within and without is equal and one. Who I am within is who I am without and vice-versa

4.       Self Purification through Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Application – the action of realising I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and deeds, to forgive myself for transgressions and change myself to ensure I take responsibility for who, what and how I am and through this know that I can trust myself to always be honest with me and so others

5.       Living the principle of Self Responsibility – realising only I am responsible for what I accept and allow inside of me, my relationships and my outside world and so with this responsibility: only I have the power and ability to change that which I see is compromising who I am, what I live and how this affects others

6.       Realising that who I am in thought, word and deed affects not only myself – but others as well and so with Self Responsibility in thought, word and deed – I take responsibility for myself and so my relationships to be Self Aware in every moment  and live in such a way that is best for me and so others as well

7.       Living the Principle of Self Awareness – to be aware, to see, to recognize my own thoughts and Mind, to be self honest to the extent where I can take responsibility for when I see my thoughts / Mind is not what is best for me / others and commit to immediately take responsibility and change for myself and so for others

8.       With taking responsibility for myself, becoming aware of myself – take responsibility and become aware of others in my life, to assist and support them as I am assisting and supporting myself – to give as you would like to receive and do the extra bit every day to see where I can contribute to other’s lives and so my own

9.       Living the principle of self trust – as I commit myself to remain constant in my living of self honesty, self responsibility and self awareness, I stand as an unbending trust that I always in all ways know who I am no matter what I face and that in this I know, as proven in the constancy of my living that I will always honour and stand by what is best for all and so best for me

10.    Making Love Visible – through me not accepting/allowing anything less than my utmost potential, I support those in my life to reach their utmost potential, to love them as I have shown love to myself by gifting to me my utmost potential, the best life/living experience and show others as I have shown myself what it means to LIVE

11.    No one can save you, save yourself – the realisation that the tools and principles of Desteni is the guide, but I must walk the path myself. We are here to assist and support each other in this process from Consciousness to Awareness/LIFE and what it means to live – but the process itself, where you are alone with yourself in your own Mind: is walked alone

12.    Not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world – but that I realise I have created who and how I am in this moment, therefore I have the responsibility to change who and how I am and so the realisation that we as a collective created how and what this world is today and so it is the responsibility of the collective to change how and what this world is today

13.    Honouring the life in each person, animal – everything from the great to the small of earth, that we expand our awareness and responsibility to creating the best possible life for everyone and everything and so ourselves

14.    Relationships as Agreements: individuals coming together using agreements as a platform to one-on-one expand, grow and develop as individuals in life and living to support/assist each other unconditionally to reach their utmost potential where the agreement is a coming together of individuals understanding what it means to stand as equals and to stand as one

15.    Sex as Self Expression – where sex is an united expression between individuals in honour, respect, consideration and regard of each other as equals, two physical bodies uniting in equality and oneness – a merging of two equals as one physically.

16.    Realising that by the virtue of me being in this world – my responsibility does not only extend to my own Mind / my own Life, but to the minds and lives of everything and everyone of this earth and so my commitment is to extend this awareness to all of humanity to work together and live together to make this world heaven on earth for ourselves and the generations to come

17.    I must in my thoughts, words and deeds – but most importantly in my living actions, become a living example for others in my world that is noticeable and visible when it comes to the potential of a person to change themselves and so change their world. So that more people can realise how we can change this world, by standing united in our self change within the principle of what is best for all to bring heaven to earth

18.    I am the change I want to see in me and my world – to bring heaven to earth is to bring into being, into living the LIVING PROOF of a PRACTICAL HEAVEN that can be seen and heard in our actions and words. We are the Living Heaven that must come into creation in this living world.

19.    Through purifying my thoughts, words and deeds – my inner becomes my outer, so I bring into creation me as heaven into earth, realising it is not enough to ‘see the change / be the change’ – for change to become REAL it must be a constant, consistent living of me through the words I speak and the actions I live visible and noticeable to all in every moment of breath

20.    Realising that my physical body is my temple – my physical body is the living flesh through which and in which I will bring into being and create / manifest heaven on earth as me in my thoughts, words and deeds and so I honour, respect and regard – nurture and support my physical body as I would nurture and support me as equals: my body is me

21.    We are the change in ourselves and this world we have been waiting for: and so I commit to dedicate myself and my life for each one as all to realise this, as nothing will change if we don’t change in all that we are, within and without

22.    The realisation that for me to be able to change myself in thought, word and deed to the most effective living being that I can be and become – I first have to ‘know thyself’ and so commit myself to investigate, introspect and understand how I became who I am today, to prepare the road before me into self creation of a responsible, aware, self honest and trustworthy person for myself and so for all

23.    The realisation that for me to be able to contribute to change in this world – I have to get to ‘know thyself’ as this world and so commit myself to research, investigate and introspect the inner and outer workings of this world and align the systems of today to present and give the best possible life for all on Earth

Why do we take things Personally?

Why do we take things Personally?

As we walk through our lives – we come into contact with various human beings, obviously originally starting with those that become our parents / stand in the position of parents and/or those that as children had the most impact / influence on ourselves. From then, and throughout our lives – we develop, programme, design and create our personalities /self-definitions in relation to how we behave/speak/express/experience/think/react – through imprinting/copying/imitating and storing parts/aspects/components from/of others into-ourselves from-which we derive the resources to manifest a ‘who we are’.

It is that same action of ‘imprinting and storing’ – that ‘taking things personally / making things personal’ emerge, as follows:

As we develop our personalities, we encircle ourselves with human beings that most closely resemble ourselves and who assist/support with validating / confirming our personalities / ‘who we are’ and will surround ourselves with people with whom we make sure represent parts within our world that will ensure we don’t have to change ourselves / our personalities of/as ‘who we are’ and so our world with human-beings becomes a ‘protection and defence’ domain wherein we ensure that ‘who we are’ within/as our mind/personalities is maintained and controlled – everyone assisting/supporting themselves and each other to ensure all remain stuck/limited/confined and enslaved in/as their own personalities/self-definitions of/as mind as relationships interconnected within the silent agreement of “you leave me to be me, I leave you to be you, we keep each other as we are and we make sure we don’t change”. In these/such relationships – “everything goes”, where tonalities, mannerisms, behaviours, quirks, actions, words, interactions etc. – are all ‘accepted and allowed’ within/as the parameters of/as how each portray/represent themselves within/as their personality-exhibitions of/as ‘who/how’ they are. Obviously when any one ‘goes outside of the parameters of their personality-relationships’ they’re excluded / ostracized cause that one person no more validate/confirm/justify their own/everyone else’s personality/self-definitions and so are excluded.

Taking things personally / making things personal come-from within/as these/such personality self-definitions of/as one’s Mind Consciousness System, where – something/someone will speak/do something that invalidates / influences / goes against the ideas one have of oneself that constructed one’s personalities.

This is also one of the reasons why friendships/relationships exist – for this point of ‘taking this personally’ / ‘making things personal’ to not come to the fore, because it is actually within the reaction of ‘taking things personally’ / ‘making things personal’ that the ideas/perceptions/beliefs of oneself that construct/manifest one’s personalities – become exposed.

So – people enclose / surround themselves with relationships that constantly/continuously validates/justifies/confirms each other’s personalities so as to not in fact face the reality / truth of ourselves as seeing/realising/understanding that ‘who we are’ as such personalities are really actually just ideas/perceptions/beliefs/opinions we have about ourselves that we formed/manifested into entities that we project/portray/exert onto/towards others, and are not in fact real = which the reaction of ‘taking things personally’ / ‘making things personal’ reveal as follows:

Taking things personally / making things personal in relation to Others:

Example One:

Let’s say, for example you have an idea about yourself of being a ‘meticulous’ person and you ‘hold yourself’ to that idea that you shaped because of your meticulous application within completing tasks. You’re in the process of selling your home and you overhear visitors checking out the house/apartment saying: “Man! This house has been totally neglected, no attention has been given to it in a long time” – you react to that statement in anger/resentment within the context of ‘taking it personally’ / ‘making it personal’ cause that statement goes against/invalidates your idea/belief/perception you have about/of yourself as being a ‘meticulous person’.

Obviously this point of you reacting in taking it personally / making it personal indicate/reveal/show a point/part within self that is actually in fact what the person commented-on/pointed-out and so their observation was actually quite accurate: The condition of the home/apartment was in disarray cause it hadn’t in fact been given attention to and so do fall into neglect.

In this, taking things personally / making things personal is a ‘personality’ protection/defence mechanism that self use/abuse to validate/confirm self’s own ideas/perceptions/beliefs about/of self as personalities when one experience / feel that someone/something is ‘attacking’ one’s ideas/perceptions/beliefs as personalities/self-definitions of/as self.

Within the context of the example, the person experienced that their idea/perception/belief of being a ‘meticulous person’ is/has been attacked/invalidated, and will – instead of investigating their reaction to/towards the person will go into the reaction of ‘taking the point personally / making it personal’ and accept and allow themselves to participate in all sorts of thoughts to justify/excuse why the house/apartment is in disarray through for example saying: “they don’t know what they’re talking about / it doesn’t look that bad / they probably come from an elitist town where everything is perfect” etc. and within/during that process you’ll try and keep your idea/perception/belief of being a ‘meticulous person’ intact.

When that one statement/comment from that one person with self reacting in anger/resentment within/as taking it personally / making it personal, reveal/expose that ‘who self is’ as the totality of/as self as the living-word of/as being meticulous is not in fact real – but that ‘being a meticulous person’ is actually an idea/perception/belief as personality that self developed in self’s mind. Because – if self was meticulous as the living-word, it would show in living-application to/towards/in/as all parts of one’s world/reality equal and one, and not just in one aspect / part /point of one’s world such as completing tasks. Yes – one may be ‘meticulous’ when it comes to tasks/projects, but ‘who I am’ is not in fact meticulous – otherwise, everything would’ve received equal and one meticulous attention and care – from work, to relationships, to home, to actions, to words etc. Therefore, taking one point within one’s world such as being meticulous only within tasks/projects and superimposing that on the totality of self/self-world is how an IDEA of self is shaped, when self is not in fact LIVING/BEING that word in ALL contexts of/as one’s world/reality – equal and one.

And so, why – people enclose/surround themselves only with certain human beings, so that they can validate/confirm/justify each other’s IDEAS to themselves and each other, and not actually come to terms with the reality of who we are: existing as only IDEAS constructed/manifested into/as Personalities that we have come to experience ourselves to be.

Example Two:

You have an idea about yourself as being a ‘likeable’ person, to/towards which everyone within one’s immediate world/reality respond-to in good-spirits / comfortability. You one day go into town to purchase some groceries and you do your usual ‘likeable’ presentation to/towards a person to/towards which you have grown a particular liking to. Instead of the usual good-spirits/comfortability/easy-going reaction you receive, this person simply blankly stares at you and dismisses you on the spot.

You react to this within the context of shock, which turn into anger/resentment as that person did not confirm/validate/justify your IDEA about yourself as being a ‘likeable person’ in reacting/responding to/towards you in the way that everyone else usually does to confirm/validate/justify your idea of yourself.

So – when taking things personally / making things personal – one tend to react in anger/resentment and making the other responsible for / to blame for how self reacted. As within the example above – the person would go into backchat of saying: “Well, aren’t they in a bad mood / must’ve caught them on a bad time / they’re full of shit” – etc. so in a way making the other person the problem within the situation, when in fact it’s all and all self reacting and making the other person ‘bad’ to protect/defend one’s IDEA of self as being a ‘likeable person’, not realising/seeing/understanding that it is in fact an IDEA as there is no way that self will be able to PLEASE all of humanity in being ‘likeable’ to EVERYONE in all contexts. But, one will go to the extent of trying/attempting to protect/defend this idea, perception/belief of/as self by making other’s be the ‘problem’, like – ‘there’s something wrong with them for not liking you’ – which is ridiculous.

Taking things personally / making things personal in relation to Self:

Example 3:

Within walking one’s practical process of/as facing self as the Mind and within and during that process – one come to a point of ‘falling’ or ‘making a mistake’ where a particular IDEA of/as oneself has been challenged, and because we accept/allow ourselves to define ourselves by IDEAS – self will accept and allow self to fall in ALL ASPECTS of self, like – totally giving-up / giving-in just because of that ONE POINT. 

Instead of investigating self in relation to and in context with that one point, and directing/changing self within that ONE POINT; we accept and allow ourselves to take the mistake/falling ‘personally’ / ‘make it personal’ and accept and allow self to fall into self-manipulation, wherein self accept and allow self to victimize self in relation to the point that was faced, ‘throw in the towel’ and pity/blame/judge self by/through trying-to/attempting to give up on the totality of/as self and self’s process.

In this, is also how self/mind use/abuse the point of ‘taking things personally’ / ‘making things personal’ when an Idea of/as self as personality self-definition is challenged / confronted – where one would thus, instead of facing self as the idea, facing self as the point that challenged that Idea, walking through the reaction that self experienced within/as facing that point and idea of/as self and assisting and supporting self to stop, stand up and change: we would instead use/abuse that reaction of ‘making things personal’ / ‘taking things personally’ as a backdoor/scapegoat for continuing to exist as and hide within IDEAS, to not have to face self as IDEAS and REACTIONS, but ‘give in and give up on self’ and give the Mind and Energy it’s continued power and control over/of self.

So – within the walking of one’s process, be attentive  of this manipulation point of protecting/defending Ideas and Reactions of, within and as Self, where one try and use/abuse ONE POINT faced within one’s world and then try and manipulate self and others in justify/validating/excusing ‘giving up/giving in’ when all the while it’s self too afraid to actually face self, and change self as what we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be/become: IDEAS, Energy as manifested Personalities.

And so how we use/abuse this point of making this personal / taking things personally to protect/defend self-IDEAS as personalities, and therefore how – taking this personally / making things personal actually reveal/expose what of ourselves/within ourselves is/are only IDEAS and not in fact actual, real living expressions of/as who we are in/as the physical within/as the contexts of/as equality and oneness.

So – as and when you react to/towards another’s response/comment to/towards you personally, where their actions/words were in direct relation to you, and you reacted in anger/resentment and with backchat to/towards them in making them wrong/bad/the problem: Investigate what it is that they were saying / doing to/towards ‘you’ and identify the IDEA that they as the event/situation is exposing/revealing about/of self. Walk the writing/self-forgiveness and see how you can implement the idea, from an idea into an actual living actuality as self as the living word; as with for example the examples we used:

Meticulous – asserting self to become meticulous in all contexts of self/self’s world

Likeable – to not try and please everything/everyone, but be comfortable/confident with ‘who self is’ here and stop defining relationships in wanting to please everyone, but how one can interact with others to learn more about self.

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Sunette