Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

Perception, Interpretation and Assumption: Creating Gossip

The Evil that is Gossip (Part 2)

One of the primary things that fuels gossip is the relationship between perception, interpretation and assumption. I have had conversations with many different people and the one thing that’s common when they started talking about others is: they in their Minds perceive another’s behaviour, then interpret it according to their own ideas / opinions of the particular behaviour and from there assume their perception and interpretation is correct because they believe their references in the Mind more than actually walking the space and time process of getting to know a person.

So, if you take a step back within yourself and access some memories (or simply observe your mind when you’re around other people) – within this having a look at the processes unfolding within your thinking / internal conversations when watching others: you’ll see how you’ll watch someone talk / move / do something, then slightly or overtly react to them, then in your mind’s eye ‘see’ a projection/imagination that encapsulates the overall ‘image’ of the person and then you’ll start creating an experience towards them based on your emotional / feeling reaction. From here, depending on the reaction being positive or negative and depending on what data/information/memories/programming you have already within your Mind – thoughts, backchats etc. will start activating. Here, your Mind is starting to create a relationship with the person based on emotion, based on feelings, based on data/information/memories/programming of your Consciousness.

For most part we have observed that people will approach / respond / simply stay away from people based on this platform in the Mind which constantly decides on the relationship with another based on perception, interpretation and assumption. Where individuals aren’t even aware of how little they ASK questions to another person, but in fact reference this perception-interpretation-assumption equation in the Mind where either positive and/or negative things will accumulate and as time passes – if the result is more positive, the person will continue a relationship, if more negative, the person will slowly but surely distance themselves.

So, it’s to for yourself see how this particular programming of your Consciousness operates. Referencing / believing this initial ‘assessment’ of a person in your Mind more than actually asking them questions, having conversations, spending time together and getting to know them – is causing a separation within humanity where you have so many people in very few relationships, both partnership and platonic and so many people who have no relationships at all. Where they either isolated themselves from people because of this programming or have been the unfortunate ones of being on the receiving end of this programming and others simply never gave them the opportunity to get to know them as a person.

I have met people who would go so far as compromising so much of themselves, just to portray an image / personality for others to keep everyone else’s minds happy – where they became astute at being able to assess what other people’s minds expect of them or likes / dislikes / prefers and accordingly moulded themselves to be able to please everyone’s (or as many as possible) minds. This primarily coming from and because of the gossip of others – but even then, despite these efforts, other people’s minds manages to conjure up gossip about one thing or another. Many people do this with awareness – maintaining relationships with others because of the fear of gossip, but do not have any other way of interacting with others and so base their relationships on keeping everyone else happy, while diminishing / limiting themselves…

In this, many people face a conundrum: if you are different – you’ll be isolated / ostracised and many depend on their relationships outside of the work environment, for example, when socialising, doing sports activities / extracurricular activities etc. If you are / do something that fuels gossip, it spreads, it affects your relationships, your general experience of yourself – but not only that, most of the people who’d gossip you may not even know and do not have or are not given the opportunity to share your side of things and so everyone is left to their own Minds, their own assumptions of you and you are powerless to do anything about it.

So…what do we do? What’s the solution?

In the next post we’re going to have a look at how we as individuals can take personal responsibility first and foremost: see where within yourself you accept and allow this programming and participate in the perception, interpretation and assumption programming within yourself when observing other people. This so that you can for yourself see the extent to which you do this to yourself, as well as others in not giving them the opportunity to share who / why / how they are and in so doing – separating you from others in your own Mind with believing your own perceptions, interpretations and assumptions more than actually getting to know a person.

From here, we’ll also have a look at what we can do to assist and support ourselves to find a balance in our lives – being aware and considerate, yes, of who we are in thought, word and deed but at the same time not accepting and allowing self to live in fear of gossip or other people’s thoughts / reactions towards you. Obviously being cautious of now wanting to rebel / go to the extreme of “I don’t care what other people think of me” and live in absolute disregard of others – herein we’ll open up the dimension of self-honesty and one’s starting point in thought, word and deed and how important this is in interacting and building relationships with other people, because if you’re going to take an emotional / rebellious stance of “I don’t care / give a shit” – this will obviously create manifested consequence in your life and relationship with others…

We’ll continue more in the next post…

The Paths that Lead us…

The Paths that Lead us…

I recently went on a Road trip to a family event with my brother and his partner. From where I live to the destination should have been a 6 – 7 hour drive max, but turned out into a 13 hour trip. The trip itself was not smooth-sailing – not at all. It was long, arduous, challenging and oftentimes alarming, with moments coming up within me wondering if we shouldn’t just turn back and go home…

Here’s the story of how I assisted and supported myself to deal with this unexpected experience which (eventually) turned out to be quite a fruitful adventure.

We left in the morning around 08:30 am, estimating to arrive at our destination around 16:00 pm that same day – yet, by 16:00 pm we had not even managed to reach halfway. We’ve been on the road for a good 7 hours and the paths we took lead us in all sorts of other directions, except for the direction towards our destination. Here is a brief breakdown of what happened – mostly due to errors on our part…

About an hour’s worth of driving before reaching the halfway mark of our road trip – an accident occurred on the highway right in front of the town that was to be our halfway stop and so no cars had access to reach this town via the highway.  The traffic officers were sending everyone through an alternate route, which in itself added almost another 2 hours to the trip. With this, the three of us decided to use GPS to see if we can find another shorter alternate route to get back onto the highway and drive the more direct route to our destination, hoping that the GPS would place us back onto the highway in a position where we’d miss the accident; essentially finding a way around the accident, back onto the highway instead of driving an entire alternate route. This did not work out.

We ended up getting back onto the highway, but right behind the accident and so we parked the car on the highway and decided to wait it out…but after 2 hours of waiting and gathering information from the traffic / accident departments we realised we didn’t know how long we’d have to wait and so decided to turn back and drive the initial alternate route. Yet, driving back to the initial alternate route as the traffic officers directed would have also taken a lot of time and so we decided to consult the GPS once more to see if we can find a shorter route back to the alternate route than the roads we initially took…This did not work out. The GPS malfunctioned in rural / farm areas where we’d been driving, taking us into long, bendy, thin, barely drivable roads until there was a moment the GPS said to turn right and there was no right!!! This lead us to once again turn around – lay the GPS to rest, let go of wanting to make up for time and find shorter routes and return to the paths we know will lead us to the destination.

All of the above took us from about 08:30 in the morning until 15:00 – 16:00 in the afternoon, still not having reached our halfway mark! Because, when we eventually reached the initial alternate route – the alternate route had roads that haven’t been worked on for over 5 years…the roads were in a dire state of decay with so many holes / falling apart that all the cars / trucks from the highway were backed up bumper-to-bumper and weaving through these roads trying to find space to actually drive on…This in itself delayed us for almost 2 hours until we eventually between 17:00 – 18:00 reached the town as the halfway mark and from there it was smooth sailing except for minor delays where they were still working on the roads with only one lane available and had to wait between 15 – 20 minutes for cars from one direction to pass before cars from our direction could pass.

So, with all the accidents, taking shortcuts ending up delaying us even more, the condition of roads, traffic, wrong turns etc. – we eventually after 13 hours reached our destination! In the beginning, when we’d already been on the road for 7 hours with not reaching even our halfway mark I suggested we turn around and go home – but then again, what came up in me was “we’ve been through all of this, let’s push forward” and I’m grateful we did, because the weekend with family opened up / inspired many realisations in the relationship with myself and others for which I am grateful. So, the entire journey – through all the ups and downs was definitely worth it in the end…

One of the first realisations I was looking at as we were driving was how much of life generally tends to be this way – many mistakes, wrong turns, falling, going into a certain direction only leading to nowhere and having to stop / change course, failing etc.; yet within this I’d say we don’t tend to enough focus on ourselves and what we can learn from this journey, this experience that is our lives. Where we more tend to focus on the things going wrong / bad or shall I rather say the things not going according to how we expect / initially plan them to – instead of focusing on who we are within and during this journey, this experience that is our lives. Because, during the initial first 7 hours – there was a moment where I embraced even the possibility that things could get worse, I played out the worst possible scenarios of what could have happened and had to be okay with it, knowing that whatever will come, I have me, I have my process, my self honesty and there’s much still on a personal level for me to face, to realise about me and life in general…so, I essentially had to accept the fact that we can never know where the paths in our lives will lead us, to not prejudge it, to not expect / anticipate or try and predetermine a certain path / journey – but maintain focus on who I am in every moment and what I am going to learn about me, my process and my life within whatever comes.

So, in the next post – I’ll continue with “the paths that lead us” – how from one perspective, we’ll take paths in our lives that’ll lead us into a particular direction, but at the same time, you can lead yourself through that path based on who you are and how you approach it…

Patience as Self/Living Expression

Patience as Self/Living Expression

Who I am as Patience (continued)

Here and example of how one’s relationship to emotional/feeling reactions brings forth self-expression and living-expression within oneself and one’s world – all of which brings us to the most important question within this all: What is Patience then, if not an feeling-reaction as part of the Mind/Consciousness? How do we change who we are in relationship to this word from a feeling-reaction of Consciousness, to a Self/Living Expression in the Physical?

Walking through the emotional and feeling reactions of Impatience / Patience towards Time and Sequences of Events – we discovered the self-expression of self-empowerment in relation to Time and Sequences of Events, as well as the living-expression of self-direction where one has the power to direct oneself in relation to Time and Sequences of Events. No Reactions needed.

Let’s in this post explore what Patience is as a Self and Living Expression:

Patience is the embracing of all time and of all sequences of events. Patience is standing equal to and one with all time and all sequences of events. Patience is to be HERE. Patience is a stand within and as oneself where one knows when one has to step back, wait and when one has to act. Patience is to know when to let something / someone go for a moment / a while and when to hold on. Patience is a stand within and as oneself, where – despite not knowing what the outcomes may be: one continue walking / standing here, because of the trust within oneself that with every moment of walking / applying / standing and changing oneself/the moment within the principle of what’s best for all – this will come to manifest as oneself.

What we’re looking at here is the following:

The positive feeling reaction of Patience, has been connected to ‘man-made Time’ (seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years etc.) ‘Man-made Time’ is more a mental interpretation of sequences of events of reality and with there existing a positive feeling energy in relation to Time in the MIND – as the mind/consciousness operate / function, it has to maintain a balance when it comes to polarity. Meaning, because there is a positive feeling energy – there has to exist a negative emotional energy, which is where Impatience comes in. So, the purpose for the existence of Impatience was to balance the positive feeling reaction of Patience in the Mind. (How the Mind works with Positive and Negative feeling and emotional energy – is walked in detail within the Quantum Mind Self Awareness Interview Series)

Patience as a Self/Living Expression – is related to the HERE. HERE being the stand in one’s physical body where one has access to the quantum multi-dimensions of the Mind and the Physical and can within this relationship: access all ‘time-frames and play-outs’ in REALITY as the sequences of events that flow from our Mind-Physical relationship. It’s where one stand in equality and oneness with and as how the Mind moves in reality and how the physical moves in reality.

See: if we ONLY exist in the Mind, in a positive / negative relationship to ‘man-made Time’ – then we can only see such a time-frame in reality and so also only assess sequences of events / play-outs within ‘man-made Time’. Whereas, if we’re in equality and oneness with and as the Mind and the Physical, standing HERE with the Mind and the Body: we have access to seeing ‘all time-frames’ – how the Mind moves and the Body moves. Now, to explain this more practically – have a look at the following:

The Mind MOVES, the Body MOVES – it is in constant perpetual motion. It is this MOVEMENT of the Mind and the Body, individually and together that human beings in the Conscious/Subconscious Mind (that are stuck in a relationship to ‘man-made Time’) don’t have access to. When you’re standing in/as the HERE – you have access to this ‘movement’ of the Mind and Body individually and together and can from there relatively assess/determine the outflows / play-outs of sequences of events in reality and from there – equate it into ‘man-made Time’. The equation looks as follows:

Movement = Sequences of Events = Time

With one’s starting point being ‘the HERE’ – one then see how things REALLY move, come into creation / materialize into physical reality to manifest sequences of events that one can then equate into Time. See, as mentioned in the previous posts – we’ve always lived in reverse. We’ve looked at physical reality in/as the tunnel-vision time-frame of TIME only, when the mind and physical reality is not functioning in relation to Time at all – but MOVEMENT. With having access to this MOVEMENT, with understanding this MOVEMENT – one can understand what the HERE is, what PATIENCE is, in fact as a Living/Self Expression.

In the next post, we’ll continue with practical examples to understand the HERE, to understand the MOVEMENT of the Mind and the Body, to understand what it means to stand equal to and one with Time and Sequences of Events and finally to understand what PATIENCE in fact is within it all.